I'm a 37 yo guy, life-long single and pay for sex, should I give myself a chance? (family, friend) - Dating, marriage, boyfriends, girlfriends, men, women, friends, attraction ... - Page 19 - City-Data Forum

Jamfreak · 02-03-2011, 01:43 PM

There won't be a potential partner now. I simply don't want to look ridiculous dealing with stuff I should have dealt with about 20 years ago. It's too troublesome.

Of course I won't say I'm not sad over this, it was a big achievement for me, but some guys are not meant to be with anyone romantically.

stepka · 02-03-2011, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Jamfreak

There won't be a potential partner now. I simply don't want to look ridiculous dealing with stuff I should have dealt with about 20 years ago. It's too troublesome.

Of course I won't say I'm not sad over this, it was a big achievement for me, but some guys are not meant to be with anyone romantically.

Jam, I'm 51 and never have had a man be in love with me even though I was married for 23 years.

Should I stop trying?

mir86 · 02-03-2011, 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by stepka

Jam, I'm 51 and never have had a man be in love with me even though I was married for 23 years.

Should I stop trying?

no!

My dad has had 3 failed marriages and he STILL won't give up! I know perseverance all too well.

Hawk J · 02-03-2011, 02:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Jamfreak

There won't be a potential partner now. I simply don't want to look ridiculous dealing with stuff I should have dealt with about 20 years ago. It's too troublesome.

Of course I won't say I'm not sad over this, it was a big achievement for me, but some guys are not meant to be with anyone romantically.

I wouldn't give up Bro. Thar are many eligible women out thar hiking the trails, forests, & on the waterways.

Hawk J · 02-03-2011, 02:35 PM

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Originally Posted by mir86

no!

My dad has had 3 failed marriages and he STILL won't give up! I know perseverance all too well.

Elizabeth Taylor has been married about eight times.

mir86 · 02-03-2011, 02:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Hawk J

Elizabeth Taylor has been married about eight times.

haha true dat!

Hawk J · 02-03-2011, 02:39 PM

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Originally Posted by stepka

Jam, I'm 51 and never have had a man be in love with me even though I was married for 23 years.

Should I stop trying?

I got a feelin' yer soulmate is out thar waiting fer you, darlin.

sportsgeek20 · 02-03-2011, 03:17 PM

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I think as a women, I would love to know from day 1. To me is a deal breaker. I would never engage with a man that pays for sex on a regular basis, for SO many reasons. But I would love to know. Before any involvement.

And as a friend I do not have a problem. As a lover, NEVER. One or two times, maybe. All the time HELL NO.

No offense to the OP, but there was a thread talking about strippers and how some men see them as damaged goods. Same here with men that patronize hookers. Not judging. Just saying.

Yes, and this is exactly why he shouldn't say it. lol

lionking · 02-03-2011, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Jamfreak

Thanks for the encouragement but we know I've got major issues to deal with and no woman has to deal with that for me. Seriously, everyone knows how pathetic it is to be 37 and never had a proper relationship. I'm simply too old for that now.

Anyway, I've got more hugs in the past month than in all my life put together. It was good, but all good things end quickly.

There is no time limit on life, and the only failure in life is giving up on life. Forget what some women say on this thread about you being damaged goods, only you decide that or not. What you just learned though is life is trial and error, and that you can be wanted for more than a payment. Even if you go to another call girl, you should know now there are women out there who want you for you.

If you have anger and jealousy issues, than yeah you need to work those out.

lionking · 02-03-2011, 03:38 PM

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Yes, and this is exactly why he shouldn't say it. lol

I'd like to hear from her why it would be a deal breaker besides the "possibility of a STD". Is he any more of a high risk for lack of relationship experience than a person who has always been in a relationship but has a history of them falling apart, like someone who has been married 4 or 5 times? Having been married multiple times gives them lots of relationship experience hence the chance of them making good relationship material?