The word UGLY (dating, how to, women, older)

[Lital_The_Best]

I don't know about anyone else, but this word gets thrown around way too loosely these days. I noticed how much people call other people ugly sometimes without looking at themselves in the mirror.

You see, I'm not trying to be "politically correct" but the fact of the matter is that I can't call someone ugly unless they have the persona to match. Ugly is more than just physical, it's also emotional and skin deep. Me personally, I never look at someone and say "Oh, that guy/girl is ugly" unless I dislike the person and like I mentioned, they have the physicality to go along with it. I usually state that I am not attractive to someone or that person isn't attractive to me.

I really do believe in the saying "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and of course think that what we all find attractive, ugliness to be subjective.

I bring this up, because it kills me when people tell one another "I don't know why Kimberly is with Johnny, because Kimberly can do SO much better" and when they say so much better, they usually mean by the way that person looks rather than how the person is. This was an example of what happened with my friends yesterday and it just bothered me how no one acknowledged the great chemistry between the couple.

It bothers me SO MUCH more when someone, who more than likely would be considered not attractive to the majority of the people that they'll encounter, goes around calling everyone else ugly, and talks their looks down, when they don't see obviously don't see how they look or take a nice introspective look on the type of person they are.

Ugly, is more of an opinion than a fact. It's different when you state the obvious that someone is fat or skinny but nowadays a lot of people tend to use ugly as a fact rather than an opinion. I'm not being self righteous, for this is just kind of something I want to get off my chest and see what people think about this issue as well.

It's just something that has been irking me for quite a while. I'm also not writing this because I get called ugly and I want to vent, because I actually (and surprisingly to me) get nice compliments about my appearance and people (men and women) tend to believe I'm a rather handsome fella. It just bothers me how some of the people I associate with call one another ugly, or in some cases even tell me why I hangout with a certain girl because "she's ugly" and I can attract better females.

So let lose, talk.

[mir86]

I personally think it takes a lot for someone to be ugly, even on a purely physical level. I've rarely called someone ugly, but I have no problem saying a person who's ugly on the inside is so and people who are ugly on the inside are more common than someone who is physically ugly.

[Weatherfan2]

I don't think too many people would hesitate to call me ugly, physically. I mean people can be so judgemental when they see someone who looks, well, rather different from the so called "normal". My pic for those who want to know what I look like, is on my profile page.

[LaoTzuMindFu]

Ugly can be on so many levels. Physical ugly. Ugly personality. Ugly attitude. Its like food you dont like - you say "its nasty". It may not be nasty to someone else, but to you its nasty. Ugly is the same way.

So, I have no problems using the term ugly. Someone can be beautiful on the inside, but if she looks like Patrick Ewing or Heidi Fleiss, shes UGLY (physically).

[sportsgeek20]

Physicly I think that apart from seriously overweight people very few are uggly, There has to be something outstanding like say someone who's missing 8-10 teeth or something.
When I was in ninth grade there was this girl in class who had a bit of a hunchback, very saggy figure and one of her eyes was considerably bigger than the other. That was uggly, I still pity her for it when I think back, because the dating market ought to get really tough for her...

[Currency Pair Crocodile]

I've never called anyone ugly. It's the handiwork of the idle fellas who have nothing better to do

[Bluesmama]

In relation to people's physical appearance the word "ugly" is seldom heard from me from the mass.

Except in the privacy of my own home where I can talk to my spouse about anything and anyone and, without a shred o' guilt, say "He's so ugly he hurts my feelings!" (quoting Moms Mabley, if anyone remembers her). Or how about, "She could stop a bullet with that face!" But that's my private life and can say what I want.

Everyone's entitled to their own opinions, up and including what they think of someone else's looks. Nobody even has to like anybody, Period. What's expected of us to try to over-look that person's look in search of something deeper, or at respectfully keep those opinions to yourself. To carry on publicly with the jeering comments sounds high school'ish.

[pkrplr1]

Originally Posted by Lital_The_Best

I don't know about anyone else, but this word gets thrown around way too loosely these days. I noticed how much people call other people ugly sometimes without looking at themselves in the mirror.

You see, I'm not trying to be "politically correct" but the fact of the matter is that I can't call someone ugly unless they have the persona to match. Ugly is more than just physical, it's also emotional and skin deep. Me personally, I never look at someone and say "Oh, that guy/girl is ugly" unless I dislike the person and like I mentioned, they have the physicality to go along with it. I usually state that I am not attractive to someone or that person isn't attractive to me.

I really do believe in the saying "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and of course think that what we all find attractive, ugliness to be subjective.

I bring this up, because it kills me when people tell one another "I don't know why Kimberly is with Johnny, because Kimberly can do SO much better" and when they say so much better, they usually mean by the way that person looks rather than how the person is. This was an example of what happened with my friends yesterday and it just bothered me how no one acknowledged the great chemistry between the couple.

It bothers me SO MUCH more when someone, who more than likely would be considered not attractive to the majority of the people that they'll encounter, goes around calling everyone else ugly, and talks their looks down, when they don't see obviously don't see how they look or take a nice introspective look on the type of person they are.

Ugly, is more of an opinion than a fact. It's different when you state the obvious that someone is fat or skinny but nowadays a lot of people tend to use ugly as a fact rather than an opinion. I'm not being self righteous, for this is just kind of something I want to get off my chest and see what people think about this issue as well.

It's just something that has been irking me for quite a while. I'm also not writing this because I get called ugly and I want to vent, because I actually (and surprisingly to me) get nice compliments about my appearance and people (men and women) tend to believe I'm a rather handsome fella. It just bothers me how some of the people I associate with call one another ugly, or in some cases even tell me why I hangout with a certain girl because "she's ugly" and I can attract better females.

So let lose, talk.

some of the "ugliest" dudes i knew scored the hottest babes.i guess it's all about the lines they throw at them and and how smooth they are. or maybe they are hung like a horse.
i guess what i'm saying is that looks don't really matter if you've got the personality.

[Asexualgirl]

I keep myself ugly. I am not bothered if someone says also what I think. Usually guys say that I am beautiful, cute, pretty, sensitive face features and so on but I think it is like with "angel" they just want to get laid because of my big boobs Everyone wants to get laid with that kind looking girl who do not know how to say "NO"... Now... if you want to get laid... - Angels do not do things like that

[sportsgeek20]

I think there's too much bull**** about the "hey everyone is beutiful" bla bla bla "it's the inside that counts" etc etc. If someone doesn't look good they simply don't. Good personality or not is a whole other thing.

"beutiful" has no meaning whatsoever anymore, since everyone finds a difninition to find eachother beutiful etc. just look at any talk show like tyra banks or whatever when they pull some obese chicks and talk about eating disorders and insecurity and all that sh*t, they always end up saying "YOU are BEEUUUTIFUL, no matter who says what!"

Uggly and beutiful are basicly words to describe physical appearence, if I want to describe personality I'll go for nice, rude, shy, etc.