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Interesting -- I myself have experienced something more of the opposite effect, somewhat similar to the OP. Namely, that the older women I dated, essentially all tended to be colder, more jaded, disillusioned from previous unsuccessful relationships, and probably more than anything else, super-picky and ultra-choosy about the guy they wanted, and they were clear, that I wasn't "it".
The younger women, tended to be more open, friendlier, nicer, and overall, bubblier, but the defining characteristic was "less jaded". I wasn't ultimately romantically successful with them either, but they were still much sweeter, than the older ladies, I think directly because of them being, less jaded from their past relationships not working out as they'd hoped.
Couldn't of said it better myself.
As far as my coworker, she is 35, married and mother of 3 so there is no attraction there.
I really just go into dating blindly...I don't tell myself "ok, this is what I am looking for..." I'm more of a spontaneous person, if something serious happens cool, if not I just move on to the next one. No drama at all with me
I've found it very difficult to bother with dating when I approached 30. In my 20's there were aspirations to start my own family with a woman I'd get to know, date, and if all goes well eventually marry, but reality hits you over and over with a sack of oranges until you realize that it's all a propagated fantasy.
As a male, single with no children there is just no middle ground it seems. The young women are far from good dating material and the older ones are too bitter or already have children and ex-issues possibly looking for a meal ticket. Casual, consensual sex is almost non-existent because eventually she may want to commit when you don't. Oh, and then there's the off chance you end up dating someone who is married but didn't respect you enough to tell you, and that is a whole 'nother story.
The way I see it, many 20-something women still act like teens. Too much drama, don't waste your time on them. Maybe seek out mid to older 20s instead, and pray they don't act like teeny-boppers too! I've always found younger women to act very awkward to older men, it's like a social taboo and remember also their parents still play a bit of a role too. Imagine how they'd feel if their 21 year old is dating a man who's 32?