I do not understand flirt, do you? (women, attractiveness, attractive)

[Asexualgirl]

Originally Posted by rainroosty

I understand the OP just fine.

Thanks

[kshe95girl]

Originally Posted by Axle grease

That's what some of like to hear. Somehow, someway, gals think everything we talk about or know about is bragging or flirting. Don't flatter yourselves ladies. If we were that type of man, we wouldn't know half the stuff we do because we put all our effort into learning how to swoon you. You never looked at it that way before, did you? I didn't think so!

Um, no, I think the correct thing is dont flatter yourself.

[Lovely95]

I don't intentionally flirt with people. I get the impression that people think I'm flirting with them when I'm not though.

[nimchimpsky]

Asexualgirl, I never know when people are flirting either! It's pretty common among asexuals to be "flirtation blind." Always have been, still am. I always think people are just being nice for the sake of being nice!

[nimchimpsky]

Originally Posted by Lucario

Why would an asexual person want to understand any of these things?

Because we don't want to give the wrong idea either. I've talked to people who took whatever I was saying as flirtation and an invitation to sex when that was not at all what I was implying, so it's good to know what not to do or say so you don't give people the wrong idea.

It's kind of like knowing how to swear in foreign languages not to use them, but to know when people are insulting you, and to know what words not to say.

[nimchimpsky]

Originally Posted by Capt. Dan

I think the OP is either:
1-very young and therefor[hopefully]asexual
2-mentally challenged
3-really TVSG

1. Asexual Visibility and Education Network
2. Perfect speech/writing is not indicative of intelligence. It may just be that Asexualgirl's first language is something other than English.
3. What does TVSG stand for?

[Stumbler.]

Originally Posted by nimchimpsky

Asexualgirl, I never know when people are flirting either! It's pretty common among asexuals to be "flirtation blind." Always have been, still am. I always think people are just being nice for the sake of being nice!

Originally Posted by nimchimpsky

Because we don't want to give the wrong idea either. I've talked to people who took whatever I was saying as flirtation and an invitation to sex when that was not at all what I was implying, so it's good to know what not to do or say so you don't give people the wrong idea.

It's kind of like knowing how to swear in foreign languages not to use them, but to know when people are insulting you, and to know what words not to say.

Hey, aren't you being a bit hasty in assumption here. Flirting could be a romantic but not sexual thing (at least it doesn't always lead to it), in that case someone who feels romantic but is asexual wouldn't necessarily be any less capable?

[nimchimpsky]

Originally Posted by Capt. Dan

BINGO!!!!!!This whole thing is a ruse. Would anyone who allegedly has this hard of a time with English know that putting the letter A in front of a word means "without?" As in Asexual.

Yes. Many languages use the prefix a- for negation. In fact, the word "asexual" is the same or similar in most languages.

Asexualité (French), asexualidad (Spanish), aseksualnost (Croatian), aseksualizm (Polish), aseksüel (Turkish), aseksualitet (Norwegian, Danish), assexualidade (Portuguese), asexualita (Czech). Transliterated from the original script, aseksual'nost' (Russian), aseksualnost (Macedonian). I think you get it by now.

[nimchimpsky]

Originally Posted by Stumbler.

Hey, aren't you being a bit hasty in assumption here. Flirting could be a romantic but not sexual thing (at least it doesn't always lead to it), in that case someone who feels romantic but is asexual wouldn't necessarily be any less capable?

I'm a romantic asexual. I'm married to an asexual and dating another one. I didn't flirt with either of them to get to where we are now. In fact we just talked without any sort of reference or allusion to sexual activity regarding each other, so in that sense we didn't really flirt. We didn't really follow any of the prescribed dating "shoulds" or "should nots".

I have, however, been asked to have sex more than once, and also have even had people try to kiss me with what they assumed was an invitation on my part, because I was apparently by sexual standards, flirting. So I like to know what constitutes flirting so I don't accidentally insinuate that I'm interested in having sex with someone when I'm not.

Just my point of view. Of course, everyone is different. I was just mentioning why I personally, as an asexual, am interested in how flirtation works.

[kshe95girl]

Originally Posted by nimchimpsky

3. What does TVSG stand for?

TVandsportsguy, a notable character on the relationships thread.