Married: Have you met your husband/wife's WORK SPOUSE? (cheating, affair, friends)

[Fullback32]

Originally Posted by OngletNYC

Calling a work friend a "spouse" is bizarre. In fact, I think it's pretty stupid.

Sorry I couldn't rep ya for that. I thought it was a bit strange as well.

I have a friend at work that I chat with on breaks and stuff during the day, and yes, my wife has met her. To think of her as "work spouse" is odd though She's more like a little sister. Our conversation is beyond just chit chat and we are good friends, but our conversation never goes to the depth with which I talk to my wife. She and I never go to lunch together BTW.

So this then begs the question, if you are friends with someone of the same sex at work that you talk with about semi-meaningful stuff, then is that person a "work gay partner"?

See, dumb concept.

[Nite Ryder]

Originally Posted by That's my question

So many people I know get much of their socializing with with someone of the opposite sex through their work. In other words, they have a work spouse.

Work spouse - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

I look back at nearly every place I have worked in the last ten years and I have always had a work spouse. He was usually happily married but very open to have a close relationship (friendship) with someone of the opposite sex at work. It was always easier to justify a close relationship with someone of the opposite sex at work because we were thrown together. It was not like we spent the evenings and weekends together, which would be frowned at by our spouses.

I got to be really close to my work spouses. We would go out to lunch on a regular basis, and chat about so many interesting things during slow times at work.

I was always very interested in what my husband thought about these men at work who I talked about all the time. Sometimes it was years before they met. My husband was always very curious about these men. He would ask if I were attracted to them or just passing the time. One work spouse and I logged hundreds of hours of somewhat intense conversation over four years.

So, have you met your husband/wife's WORK SPOUSE? And what did you think?

Work spouse? I think the name is stupid, I don't care what wikipedia has to say about it. My wife had a male friend where she worked, they walked together almost every day, they ate lunch together, and some people that didn't know them well thought they were married. It bothered his kids a bit, but no one that really knew them gave it a second thought. Him and I went Elk hunting together and our two families shared meals together. He eventually retired and her job ended two years ago. He comes by our house for a visited every once in awhile. We don't care much for his wife, but we both enjoy his company. I don't think of him as any kind of spouse, I think of him as a friend.

[Fullback32]

Heh...my wife's best friend at work (a female) is also friends with me so I'll call her "work second sister-wife."

[Glitterific]

Yes. I met his after he asked for a divorce. No late nights at work either. They consummated their relationship during the lunch hour.

[3divina]

So, before this person becomes your work spouse, are they your work fiance? Are rings exchanged?

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by 3divina

So, before this person becomes your work spouse, are they your work fiance? Are rings exchanged?

Not in so many words...very economical in these precipitous times, no?

There IS some "dating" involved, although my WS expresses a quantum of displeasure when I refer to it as "auditioning".

As a bit of an aside, there are certain items that you may (or may not) gift your work-spouse. Each case is slightly different but the common no-no's are jewelry, apparel and flowers. Once again, economy in a relationship!

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by SifuPhil

As a bit of an aside, there are certain items that you may (or may not) gift your work-spouse. Each case is slightly different but the common no-no's are jewelry, apparel and flowers.

I'm thinking an STD or a baby may not be much appreciated, either... Particularly by the real-life spouse!

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

I'm thinking an STD or a baby may not be much appreciated, either... Particularly by the real-life spouse!

Neither is likely to happen, for a variety of reasons.

Another point in favor of a work-spouse - you can have unlimited girlfriends.

[TaoistDude]

My spouse and various work "spices" have met, and we occasionally have a threesome (just for dinner - mind your dirty mnds!).

[seeniorita]

Originally Posted by SifuPhil

Neither is likely to happen, for a variety of reasons.

Another point in favor of a work-spouse - you can have unlimited girlfriends.

Sure that's all good until the work-spouse gets upset because you're dating yet another woman and she threatens to tell your real wife about your work-wife and the on-the-side-affair you're now having which is cheating on BOTH of them and the next thing you know.....you're an episode on Snapped!