does this mean he doesnt want to marry me? (dating, wife, boyfriend)
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
english is not my mother tongue, so help me out, please.
my bf and a guy friend had a talk, he asked my bf: you gonna marry her?
bfs reply: I dont know about the M word...that is far off if we do.
does this mean he does not want to marry ME, that i am not the one he sees himself married to?
i read that when men say they are not ready for marriage yet that it merely means that they are not ready for marriage with the one they are currently in a relationship with...but they could very well be married to the next girlfriend if she is the right one...
english is not my mother tongue, so help me out, please.
my bf and a guy friend had a talk, he asked my bf: you gonna marry her?
bfs reply: I dont know about the M word.. that is far off if we do.
does this mean he does not want to marry ME, that i am not the one he sees himself married to?
i read that when men say they are not ready for marriage yet that it merely means that they are not ready for marriage with the one they are currently in a relationship with...but they could very well be married to the next girlfriend if she is the right one...
How long have you been a couple?
If you've been together several years and he made that comment then I'd say he's never going to marry you.
If you've been together a short amount of time his comments likely just mean it's too soon for him to know if you are "the one".
english is not my mother tongue, so help me out, please.
my bf and a guy friend had a talk, he asked my bf: you gonna marry her?
bfs reply: I dont know about the M word...that is far off if we do.
does this mean he does not want to marry ME, that i am not the one he sees himself married to?
i read that when men say they are not ready for marriage yet that it merely means that they are not ready for marriage with the one they are currently in a relationship with...but they could very well be married to the next girlfriend if she is the right one...
Yes that is true, but it applies to a private conversation between the couple itself. You should not have a guy friend having this talk with your boyfriend. I believe you should disregard the conversation altogether, and if you have a question about your future with your boyfriend ask him yourself.
he is still a student, wants to finish his studies, then he will start off at the bottom of the career ladder, in other words, not ready in a financial way for marriage let alone a family - IF one sees financial stability as a requirement for marriage....i dont, thats why his answer kinda rubs me the wrong way because in my opinion he should already know regardless of the current circumstances if he at least COULD see himself married to me in the future, and that answer of him does not seem to mean anything positive with regards to that....
but like i said, english is not my mother tongue...
he is still a student, wants to finish his studies, then he will start off at the bottom of the career ladder, in other words, not ready in a financial way for marriage let alone a family - IF one sees financial stability as a requirement for marriage....i dont, thats why his answer kinda rubs me the wrong way because in my opinion he should already know regardless of the current circumstances if he at least COULD see himself married to me in the future, and that answer of him does not seem to mean anything positive with regards to that....
but like i said, english is not my mother tongue...
If he is American it is likely he wants to finish his education and get his career going before he ever thinks about marriage. This is what we parents encourage.
It sounds to me like you are not prepared to wait the time that he might require before he is "ready" to talk marriage, so you would be better off dating other men.
Yes that is true, but it applies to a private conversation between the couple itself. You should not have a guy friend having this talk with your boyfriend. I believe you should disregard the conversation altogether, and if you have a question about your future with your boyfriend ask him yourself.
I think its the opposite because he has no reason to hold back in a conversation with a guy friend, so in other words, he would be more honest with a guy friend than with me.
lovesMountains, i dont expect him to marry me now and i can certainly wait, but his answer could have been more like "marriage is not an option right now as i dont feel ready yet, but sometime in the future...why not?"
the answer he gave to his friend sounds more like he cant see himself married to me at all, EVEN IF he was established financially and career-wise
Generally speaking, most men do not like to talk about the lovey-dovey, gushy-mushy stuff with their guy friends.
Looking back - I can't imagine my husband discussing with his friends (or even his best friend) my potential of being his wife. If he was even asked, I picture him saying "maybe someday" or "uhhh...maybe" or "I don't know" even up until he put the ring on my finger. Sometimes, he would even say "No" (depending on who was asking) so they would just stop asking. (we were together 8 years before getting married)
So it may not even be something to concern yourself with.
Do you feel like you are at the point in your relationship where you can discuss this type of thing?
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.