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Ok so I was really miserable in college, which is supposed to be the time that even the biggest high school losers get laid. And the wild orgy atmosphere makes it worse for the few losers who don't get laid. I would look back at my past and regret all the missed opprotunites.
I was a shy quiet kid till JRHS when I moved and had a chance to reinvent myself. I was wild and crazy. I THOUGHT I had broken out of my shell. And kids would gather around to listen to my funny adventures. And the most popular beautiful girls would literally chase me and call me cute and say the loved me. I half-suspected the girls might be pulling my leg so I never made a move. And their "flirting" continued all through HS. I thought they might just be playing around, but it might be a good starting point if I became strong enough. So I joined the football team and brielfly held the benchpress record, but it made no difference.
Anyway in the years after high school I would regret never making a move when I had my chance. But now I realize what a freak I am, and how obvious it was the girls were just teasing me.
So my problem is this, my whole image of women is formed by the most misogynist pick up artist blogs and porn. And my own personal experience of being lead on as a joke for 6 years. And so I'd actually like to be friendzoned to actually get to know a girl my own age as a human being.
Can you confirm that you were being lead on for 6 whole years? I think those popular airheads would forget about that joke within a month or two. You sure you're not just being paranoid?
For one thing, stop watching porn and thinking all women are like that. Get out and socialize. Volunteer and meet woman that way. Don't think about HS or college, that's in the past and you'll just make yourself analyze every little thing. It's over so move on. If you're friends with guys, see if they have sister, friends that are girls, etc so that you can hang out with them.
Can't think of anything now but you just have to find a social atmosphere to hang around so you can chat with girls. Don't go to clubs because you won't find anyone in there for friendship.
To answer your question, early on tell her shes stunning you like her and would like to start off slow and see where it goes from there and if anything we could just be good friends. For real, throw out your corniest game, act like she's the only girl in the world and over-compliment.
Warning. If this does not land you firmly in friendzone, which it should, but if it doesn't, make sure to distance yourself, unless you really do like her.
Well its just that I read so many posts from guys complaining they've been "friendzoned", that you would think it is the easiest thing in the world to do. And I think friendzoning some girls would do my life some good.
And yes I'm positive those girls were just mocking me. It wasn't an organized conspiracy, since it could be girls in other grades, or even girls from other schools I just met. But I guess I just gave out that vibe. I deluded myself for years about it. But now that I see what a freak I am and was, its crystal clear what a fool I was for not seeing the blindingly obvious. Which is not to say I was entirely taken in back then. I never made a move, because I was somewhat suspicious, and didn't want to be lured into a trap and made a fool of. But I guess I basically believed it, and started having crushes on girls who pretended to like me. And my hope was that if I worked out enough something could happen. In college I regretted not making a move when I had had the chance with such beautiful girls who appeared to have loved me. But now I know there is nothing to regret since they were just teasing.
I think I have a textbook case of the Madonna-"Tramp" complex, thinking women are either innocent victims to be protected or evil tramps. And I guess now that I've reevaluated my past, I've been thinking more of women as evil than victims.
So anyway with the tons of complaints on the internet about men falling into the dreaded Zone, I figured this would be a great place to ask how exactly to get in there.
To answer your question, early on tell her shes stunning you like her and would like to start off slow and see where it goes from there and if anything we could just be good friends. For real, throw out your corniest game, act like she's the only girl in the world and over-compliment.
Warning. If this does not land you firmly in friendzone, which it should, but if it doesn't, make sure to distance yourself, unless you really do like her.
Lame. No woman wants to hear bs about how we look. We want someone to be themselves and have no games.
Lame. No woman wants to hear bs about how we look. We want someone to be themselves and have no games.
Exactly I'm tryna give the guy advice on how to get in the friend zone, hence the lame lines.
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