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With all due respect, maybe you should just keep your mouth shut? I mean christ how would you feel if you had a baby and your friend said "hey, uh, your kid's kinda weird looking"? It's the woman's child, she's not gonna 'recognize' that it doesn't look 'right' anyway.
Why is it even an issue really?
We all know our OP despises children and loves to complain about them. So it's no surprise to me she's can't understand that to a mother her own child is a precious jewel, regardless of his or her looks.
A Facebook friend (and casual real-life acquaintance) of mine recently had a baby. Of course, her FB page is now littered with endless photos of her new little flesh-loaf and I am sorry to say, the child is NOT attractive.
Mind you, the kid isn't UGLY per se, but it looks like it just "isn't right" if you get my meaning.
Whenever the photos are posted there are tons of "oogie boogie" comments about how precious and beautiful the kid is. I feel compelled to say SOMETHING, but what? I can't very well put what I am thinking into words. Yet, I am the ONLY FB friend who has not made any comment about the kid since she brought it home more than three weeks ago.
Any ideas?
20yrsinBranson
Friends gush over other friends/loved one's new babies because they're in the midst of great joy. Imo, it doesn't get much better than when someone I love is filled with joy. That's what makes babies so beautiful.
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Originally Posted by seeniorita
Say the same thing you do when an ugly adult posts their picture on FB! What's that....you don't say anything....yeah, go with that.
I was going to say similar. People actually fib a great deal more when it comes to adults. Babies are beautiful and it has little to do with their looks. If 20yrs were to post a pic of herself here on CD, even tho it's anonymous, more than likely she would get plenty of compliments because people, imo, tend to be nice.
So, giving a compliment is not about you, 20yrs, it's about adding to the joy of the situation. If you have no joy to share, then as others have said, it's best to keep quiet.
As long as you understand that others are NOT in awe of your baby and don't consider it something precious, miraculous or a gift from god... then it's all good. Not all of us (women) are into babies and children. But the vibes I get from all mothers is that they are fishing for compliments.
I think you are mistaking the pride of a new parent for something else. If a new mom posts pics of her newborn on FB, it has nothing to do with "fishing for compliments". Most family and friends (true friends - ones that actually care about them ) are expecting those pictures. They want to see the new baby. This is pretty much normal accepted behavior. If you don't care enough about someone as to be at least curious about their new child, then I can't imagine why you would call yourself a friend.
Geez...how hard is to simply type "adorable". You won't go to hell for telling a white lie. Pinkie swear! I think your silence has pretty much spoke volumes anyway.
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So it's no surprise to me she's can't understand that to a mother her own child is a precious jewel, regardless of his or her looks.
Most family and friends (true friends - ones that actually care about them 
You won't go to hell for telling a white lie. Pinkie swear! I think your silence has pretty much spoke volumes anyway. 
