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Old 09-02-2011, 12:40 PM
 
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Good for you. Consider yourself lucky that this happened now instead of 10-15 years from now and getting yourself bent over a barrel for alimony and child support.

Live and learn and move on and take care getting married. Women always look for the biggest and best nest they can find and don't think twice of bed hopping and jumping around to manipulate situations and men. Women are the masters at deception, they can't help themselves, so you always have to have your head up and have situational awareness and look beyond what they tell you.
Wow. Way to invade a thread with a lot of nasty misogynistic comments. Got much baggage?
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Old 09-02-2011, 01:48 PM
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Location: Arlington, Virginia
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In early August my ex-wife tried to come back. She sent flowers, called, sent numerous emails explaining how much she loves me and that it was by far the biggest mistake of her life, etc. I guess her new life with her new boyfriend wasn't the wonderful fantasy she expected. I told her no way, and that I had moved on, that she will never be able to hurt me again, and never to contact me again.
You made a great move here. Once you are done, stay done. Keep it moving.

I also agree taking it easy on romance for awhile. No use rushing into another marriage and putting yourself in this situation again.
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Old 09-02-2011, 02:14 PM
Status: "Partially taking all the blame" (set 7 days ago)
 
Location: Tampa, Florida
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HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! That is so awesome that you told her to **** off when she came crawling back. Way to go dude!
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Old 09-02-2011, 03:31 PM
 
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OP, as others have noted, good for you for moving on and not falling for the crap your ex is trying to pull. I wish you happiness in your future.

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Wow. Way to invade a thread with a lot of nasty misogynistic comments. Got much baggage?
Baggage is putting it lightly. If anything, they provide a reminder to appreciate a life that is not so twisted and f*cked up.
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Old 09-02-2011, 04:49 PM
 
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I'm very glad that the OP doesn't post like those LOSERS here in CD who complain how dating is easy for women and thinks that all of them are ungrateful skanks!

So glad he's MUCH MORE MATURE than those boys.
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Old 09-02-2011, 10:16 PM
 
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Wow. Way to invade a thread with a lot of nasty misogynistic comments. Got much baggage?
Hit too close to home for you?

There is nothing nasty or misogynistic about what I said. This guy dodged a bullet from a deceptive woman and he should not only thank his lucky stars but also be cautious in the future.

In terms of my personal situation, I have no baggage because I chose not to have any. Every past situation is for learning and growing from and to make appropriate changes if need be. Can't live in the past and I move on.

This guy shouldn't cry over split milk and sounds like he is moving forward which is great for him. Don't rain on his parade.
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Old 09-02-2011, 10:39 PM
 
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Hit too close to home for you?

There is nothing nasty or misogynistic about what I said. This guy dodged a bullet from a deceptive woman and he should not only thank his lucky stars but also be cautious in the future.

In terms of my personal situation, I have no baggage because I chose not to have any. Every past situation is for learning and growing from and to make appropriate changes if need be. Can't live in the past and I move on.

This guy shouldn't cry over split milk and sounds like he is moving forward which is great for him. Don't rain on his parade.
It's not this guy's screwy ex that is warranting complaints. It's your leap from this guys ex to women. As in women plural, because, ya know, "women" is plural for woman. As in all women. And that's way beyond typical baggage.
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Old 09-02-2011, 11:14 PM
 
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Please share your thoughts...Even though it is over, I don't think I will ever truly get over it. I will always look back at seeing that note and feel sick to my stomach, or simply become deeply saddened by the epic tragedy of it all.
Time really does heal all wounds, the scar is another story. Some things like this may not be forgotten but you will usually do something akin to making friends with it. It exists, you think of it at the odd time when reminded or sometimes for no discernible reason but it has lost the power to hurt you for the most part. Other times the scar may fade away completely and be forgotten. Whether time takes your scar away or you make friends with it, either way, you will get better. Keep your chin up man.
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Old 09-03-2011, 02:30 AM
 
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I am glad you didn't fall for the ex. I am glad you turned her down. I am proud of you for that. The hurt will get better. The past is the past. It gets you to where you are today, but living in the past isn't healthy. Look forward and keep looking forward and also enjoy where you are right now.
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Old 09-05-2011, 08:16 PM
 
Location: Boca Raton, FL
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Smile Congratulations on finding the positive!

First of all, you sound like a nice guy. It is hard to know why people behave like they do. What she did was terrible but you know now there is life after and that you can move on.

There are nice women out there just like there are nice men. Sometimes, it takes a while to find the right one. Relationships change over time and need loving care.

It makes you stronger. Just get up each day, look for the positive and enjoy.

Yes, you did dodge a bullet.
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