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We fall in love only when we are consciously or unconsciously sexually motivated.
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Originally Posted by Knight2009
I emphatically and profoundly disagree, with the bolded above statement. Physical motivation distinguishes family love from spousal love; nothing more. But it is entirely possible to "fall in love", sans mere erotic reasons -- such as when they totally and completely capture your heart, or vice versa.
Well then, you are challenging the likes of M. Scott Peck, M.D., psychiatrist and author of the national best seller
"The Road Less Traveled", which brilliantly integrates traditional psychological and spiritual insights!
IMO, that is the antithesis, of real romantic love...it would most certainly *not* work on me, as it would only leave me feeling empty and hollow, in my heart...
Last time I encountered somebody of your kind I was in grade school... OK, maybe in HS, but I didn't give him the time of day as I was interested in a half-foreigner, Math-wiz, playing air guitar heavy-metal head whom none of my friends liked and we were keeping things sort of "under cover". We also did that because his own image was going to be destroyed by having something as mushy as a girlfriend. The other one... the other one was also a Math wiz, but a mousy, blond Math wiz, who was hanging out by the ladies' room on the wrong floor in order to catch a glimpse of me... I'm pretty sure he would've been more than happy to write me poems and hold my hand in public. Mind you, I'd love both... but not from him... I'd imagine some woman is having a calm and decent life with him... Oh, well, c'est la vie...
People who fall in love easily also fall out of love just as easily. Don't be too quick to believe it will last.
Just slow him down and move at your own pace. As long as you are honest with him that "you want to take things slow" I don't see a problem. Enjoy the attention while it lasts.
We fall in love only when we are consciously or unconsciously sexually motivated.
Well then, you are challenging the likes of M. Scott Peck, M.D., psychiatrist and author of the national best seller "The Road Less Traveled", which brilliantly integrates traditional psychological and spiritual insights!
All I know is, romantic love without physical motivation alone as the only factor in the equation, can and has happened for me, before (and was recently actually reciprocated).
*Can* physical motivation result in romantic love, of and by itself? Certainly. *Must it* always, *100% of the time*, and without any exception at all? *That* is the area where I differ, with the esteemed person above. Besides, practically no one that I know takes psychiatry 100% seriously, or as absolute, infallible gospel truth anyway
Last time I encountered somebody of your kind I was in grade school... OK, maybe in HS, but I didn't give him the time of day as I was interested in a half-foreigner, Math-wiz, playing air guitar heavy-metal head whom none of my friends liked and we were keeping things sort of "under cover". We also did that because his own image was going to be destroyed by having something as mushy as a girlfriend. The other one... the other one was also a Math wiz, but a mousy, blond Math wiz, who was hanging out by the ladies' room on the wrong floor in order to catch a glimpse of me... I'm pretty sure he would've been more than happy to write me poems and hold my hand in public. Mind you, I'd love both... but not from him... I'd imagine some woman is having a calm and decent life with him... Oh, well, c'est la vie...
LOL
C'mon Sierra, give a guy a chance will ya? (j/k, teasing u here)
Agreed, but I'm not in a position or at least I don't know him well enough to know if there is a possibility to correspond his sentiments. I don't have any other guys on the side (I date one at a time), and I like this guy but I don't know what it'll develop into so should I gamble with this guys feelings which are apparent and growing, just on the possibility that I may someday feel the same? Or...
I bet you wish you never asked for advise!!!! But it's true you have to be up front with this guy. Like already stated by sierraA, karma, what goes around comes around!!
Good luck.
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The other one... the other one was also a Math wiz, but a mousy, blond Math wiz, who was hanging out by the ladies' room on the wrong floor in order to catch a glimpse of me...
I'm pretty sure he would've been more than happy to write me poems and hold my hand in public. Mind you, I'd love both... but not from him... I'd imagine some woman is having a calm and decent life with him... Oh, well, c'est la vie...
