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Old 01-26-2011, 12:34 PM
 
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I won't lie, for as level headed as I believe myself to be, I can't help but wish my ex would be hit by a bus. I know it's an irrational feeling devoid of any pragmatic thinking but gee whiz, if I were to read about it I can honestly say I wouldn't feel about about it.
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Old 01-26-2011, 12:38 PM
 
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I won't lie, for as level headed as I believe myself to be, I can't help but wish my ex would be hit by a bus. I know it's an irrational feeling devoid of any pragmatic thinking but gee whiz, if I were to read about it I can honestly say I wouldn't feel about about it.
Not any exes, but there have been times where I wouldn't shed a tear if various and sundry idiots, jerks, and dirtbags experienced spontaneous combustion.

There's nothing wrong with owning your anger. Just don't act on it in an illegal or unproductive way. Remember that the best revenge is living well, and count on karma to take care of the rest for you.
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Old 01-26-2011, 12:42 PM
 
Location: Whiteville Tennessee
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No I havent. She is afterall the mother of my children. For that I wish her only good things. She was a wonderful wife and mother until someone introduced her to the wonders of cocaine.
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Old 01-26-2011, 12:43 PM
 
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Not any exes, but there have been times where I wouldn't shed a tear if various and sundry idiots, jerks, and dirtbags experienced spontaneous combustion.

There's nothing wrong with owning your anger. Just don't act on it in an illegal or unproductive way. Remember that the best revenge is living well, and count on karma to take care of the rest for you.

Avienne--

I agree with you completely. I'm not acting out or anything. I do live a good live and I'm getting married in a few short months to a wonderful woman. In fact, I'm happier now than I ever remember being in my previous relationship.

I just wondered if I was alone in wishing ill will to an ex.
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Old 01-26-2011, 12:52 PM
 
Location: tampa bay
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Avienne--

I agree with you completely. I'm not acting out or anything. I do live a good live and I'm getting married in a few short months to a wonderful woman. In fact, I'm happier now than I ever remember being in my previous relationship.

I just wondered if I was alone in wishing ill will to an ex.
Of course you are not alone !! When someone hurts us in away only a spouse really can our most basic human emotions get the better of us. Believe it or not oneday when you think of her you will feel nothing and then you will really know you moved on!! Good luck on your marriage!
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Old 01-26-2011, 12:53 PM
 
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Avienne--

I agree with you completely. I'm not acting out or anything. I do live a good live and I'm getting married in a few short months to a wonderful woman. In fact, I'm happier now than I ever remember being in my previous relationship.

I just wondered if I was alone in wishing ill will to an ex.
I'm interested in reading the responses you get, but really don't think that's normal. Didn't I read on another thread where you gave over power to God? Are you a religious guy? Is this what religious type guys think these days? The worst I ever wished on an ex, is a broken heart ... not a jaw or a cranium.
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Old 01-26-2011, 12:53 PM
 
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Don't really have any exes considering I've never really been in a "relationship", but there are some people who I think should really off themselves for the sake of others' happiness..
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Old 01-26-2011, 12:55 PM
 
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Sometimes in anger one does feel or say to oneself. That God will teach him or her a lesson, for the pain and suffering , but the next moment it is wise to think all good to happen too because bitterness is not good. One cannot ever wish bad for ex even if he or she has caused lot of pain esp if kids are involved. It is our share of pain in this world, we have to bear if we believe in Karma. Also sometimes a bad spouse/relationship can bring out good qualities in ourselves, which otherwise would be completely in contrast of our personality(like strenght, courage, determination, boldness) which are required to get out of rotten relationship.

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I won't lie, for as level headed as I believe myself to be, I can't help but wish my ex would be hit by a bus. I know it's an irrational feeling devoid of any pragmatic thinking but gee whiz, if I were to read about it I can honestly say I wouldn't feel about about it.
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Old 01-26-2011, 12:55 PM
 
Location: Colorado Springs, CO
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I won't lie, for as level headed as I believe myself to be, I can't help but wish my ex would be hit by a bus. I know it's an irrational feeling devoid of any pragmatic thinking but gee whiz, if I were to read about it I can honestly say I wouldn't feel about about it.
I think it's natural to day dream of stuff like that when someone has hurt you or made your life miserable over a period of time....so long as it stays day dreams. After a while, that sort of thinking fades though the farther away from the situation you get.

When my ex and I first separated she started riding motorcycles with her second of many boyfriends during her great new husband search. I asked her if she was wearing a helmet. She said, "yes". I said, "How come? Don't you want to feel the freedom of the wind in your hair?"
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Old 01-26-2011, 01:02 PM
 
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I'm interested in reading the responses you get, but really don't think that's normal. Didn't I read on another thread where you gave over power to God? Are you a religious guy? Is this what religious type guys think these days? The worst I ever wished on an ex, is a broken heart ... not a jaw or a cranium.

yes, God brought me in many good directions. This doesn't mean I always agree with the method. I didn't say I was perfect or the most pious of men. I make mistakes and yes, I'm guilty of having emotions.

I almost never think of my ex any more. I was merely imploring people to see if they have shared similar emotions.
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