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Why men do not listen to women?
As you age the ability to hear the higher sound ranges begins to go. You may have damage caused from too much high noises like your music players or heavy equipment or gun discharges. Womens voice are mostly of a frequency (young kids voices are about the same) that is amongst the first to be lost. So after awhile most conversations with women resemble the whamp..wah sounds like in a Peanuts TV cartoon of adult speech. Especially this is the case when they are in drone on mode, or requesting assistance to do things like take out the trash or perhaps mow the lawn.
So I am not ignoring them, I just can not make out what the noise means.
Why men do not listen to women?
As you age the ability to hear the higher sound ranges begins to go. You may have damage caused from too much high noises like your music players or heavy equipment or gun discharges. Womens voice are mostly of a frequency (young kids voices are about the same) that is amongst the first to be lost. So after awhile most conversations with women resemble the whamp..wah sounds like in a Peanuts TV cartoon of adult speech. Especially this is the case when they are in drone on mode, or requesting assistance to do things like take out the trash or perhaps mow the lawn.
So I am not ignoring them, I just can not make out what the noise means.
Funny, but I do know my husband is going a bit deaf. I've learned to make sure I have his full attention if I need to tell him something important. Otherwise, he'll make appropriate noises ("Yeah ... mm-hmm ... okay ...") but disavow all knowledge later.
Funny, but I do know my husband is going a bit deaf.
I will say, that for me that does have a hearing loss from too much occupational exposure to high noises and my enjoyment of the shooting sports when I was younger, a lot of women voices are difficult to make out what they are saying. I can compensate quite a bit since I am very good at filling in gaps by having a near total word recognition. Though I will say that woman that deliberate talk in sotto-voice or fail to properly enuciate their words are getting more and more difficult for me to make out. It seems that a lot of younger woman are prone to this from the culture of today. It is almost like they do not want to be understood.
I will say, that for me that does have a hearing loss from too much occupational exposure to high noises and my enjoyment of the shooting sports when I was younger, a lot of women voices are difficult to make out what they are saying. I can compensate quite a bit since I am very good at filling in gaps by having a near total word recognition. Though I will say that woman that deliberate talk in sotto-voice or fail to properly enuciate their words are getting more and more difficult for me to make out. It seems that a lot of younger woman are prone to this from the culture of today. It is almost like they do not want to be understood.
For him, it was too much loud music, cranking his Walkman up to 10 and all. And I do have the tendency to speak more softly and with less enunciation than I used to, and apparently in the morning I outright mumble. At least I can work on my problem! I figure in another 10 or 15 years we'll be shouting back and forth.
I was surprised to find out that one friend was a "big complainer." She didn't show me this "side" right at first. It took awhile...Guess she waited until she felt more comfortable with me...
I've experienced this well. It takes time to get comfortable with someone where you can truly let them see who you really are. For some people, that just takes longer.
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Originally Posted by CArizona
It's never easy to end relationships especially when a friend or partner has a lot of "good qualities" too that we enjoy...But if a relationship starts to cause me a lot of "grief" and headaches it's just not mentally healthy to stick around.
I agree. A friend can have a lot of great qualities, but if they're causing you too much grief, then it isn't worth sticking around for.
Denny...Thanks for posting. It's weird how some people can seem "one way" for such a long time and be "so different" later on...It's spooky! It makes it hard to trust anyone at times...Don't you think?...I wonder if there might be more "early clues" that we can look for in the beginning. This is what I'm trying to do now. I'm playing detective and looking for "clues" when I first meet people these days.
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