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Old 01-28-2011, 07:25 AM
 
Location: Between Philadelphia and Allentown, PA
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I have never and would never take a look at someones bank account to decide if they are worthy or not. That's just absurd. Secondly, if you are just meeting someone and you are stupid enough to give someone that very private information, then you get what you deserve.
It shouldn't matter how much money someone makes, period. What should matter is how you are as a person, how you're living your life, etc...
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Old 01-28-2011, 07:26 AM
 
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So do spouses with high earning spouses....it's called a prenup.

Unless they started with nothing
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Old 01-28-2011, 07:55 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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I have never and would never take a look at someones bank account to decide if they are worthy or not. That's just absurd. Secondly, if you are just meeting someone and you are stupid enough to give someone that very private information, then you get what you deserve.
I don't think the question was to be taken THAT literally.
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Old 01-28-2011, 09:05 AM
 
Location: DC
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I think it is important to have the same financial goals if you are planning to marry someone. I would never value someone based on income. I always hear money is one major issue with married couples that fight a lot.
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Old 01-28-2011, 09:26 AM
 
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Just wondering.

I admit to not making a lot of money, or having a lot of things. But that doesn't mean that I'm not valuable in my own right. In another forum, I had two posters attacking me for it, and a few posters who were supportive of me.
I would say you have different topics here. Some people have strong earning power. They can turn one dollar into two. I wouldn't say it is easier for them to make money, just that perhaps they prefer not to budget. They would rather just make more money. These people tend to be different thinkers than say, those who earn a steady salary and budget.

Then I I know people who would find themselves in financial trouble even for small things like missing a couple of days of work. I would not consider marrying a person like this.

Now, as far as having things, it depends. If you purposely don't buy stuff just because you think it is superior to not need things, then the size of your bank account doesn't matter. I would not consider you for marriage. I am okay driving a Toyota rather than a Lexus but I am not okay sleeping in a car to save money on a hotel. I am okay living in a small house in a good area but I am not okay with buying the cheapest house which usually is in a not so good area.

I like "creative" fun, the kind of fun without needing to spend a bunch of money. However, I don't think in the back of my mind what can I do that doesn't require money. It is usually an after thought....like, wow, that was fun and we didn't even spend that much money.

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Old 01-29-2011, 01:24 PM
 
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Status: "I don't have to do nothin' but stay black and die."

Who cares?
That status is a quote from a movie, "Lean on Me." Perhaps if you got out more, you would know that.
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Old 01-29-2011, 02:30 PM
 
Location: state of procrastination
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That status is a quote from a movie, "Lean on Me." Perhaps if you got out more, you would know that.
LOL, glad somebody got it...
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Old 01-29-2011, 02:50 PM
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Location: MA/NH
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Either, really.

Who a person is ...is a lot more important than how much they make. The people who have taken the time to get to know me realize that. The people who don't are the ones who think women are "gold diggers" and that broke men shouldn't be dating.

My interactions with the women in my life have been more about talking together than about where we were going out. In fact, most times we sat at home and talked, or played games of some sort. It's about spending quality time with another, not how much money you spend on them.
So what sorts of things do you like to talk about? What games do you like to play?

I just don't think that I could spend a lot of time with anyone whose idea of quality time is solely staying at home and talking and playing games. I don't think that years of that sort of no cost stay-at-home activity is appealing to me. And I wouldn't consider that sort of "quality time" my idea of quality time.

Otherwise, if a person decides not to have a high powered career, that's really alright with me. But one shouldn't put down anyone that has a well-paying job since it does require skill and probably a pretty competitive spirit in terms of wanting to be at the top of their chosen field. And if one doesn't find a job that they love to do, they do need to find something else to do that they are passionate and skilled doing. Some hobby or pastime like perhaps playing a musical instrument, or carpentry, arts... just something more. And playing games at home just doesn't cut it, at least for me. In fact, I am not attracting to people that don't have passion or enthusiasm for living. I don't want to spend time with those who are passive floaters in life.
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Old 01-29-2011, 03:07 PM
 
Location: NYC
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Why would you go around telling people how much money you have in your bank account? And why would you entertain anyone who might inquire such a thing?
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Old 01-29-2011, 03:09 PM
 
Location: Austin, Texas
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Does anyone do that?
Hmmm....only about 90% of women before deciding whether or not to marry a guy!
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