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Old 01-30-2011, 12:53 PM
 
Location: FLG/PHX/MKE
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I'm a lot more concerned with how a person manages whatever money that they make, than whether they have a certain amount.
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Old 01-30-2011, 01:50 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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Nope, if you ain't got the green, keep stepping baby.

That's just how I roll.
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Old 01-30-2011, 02:56 PM
 
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NOPE! Started dating my other half when we both were waiting tables...fast forward 6 years..started dating again and 6 digits was in the paycheck but was laid off shortly ....fast forward 6 years and now...making less....been there with no money, been there with a lot of money, still here with half of the money...bottom line I didn't care-we love each other to death-and if anyone marries or stays with someone for money you are in for a big suprise-nothing comes free.
But you met while at the same level and both working and earning money.

You most likely would have passed him over if he was a homeless guy when you first met him, for example if he were a hungry homeless guy who asked you for table scraps.
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Old 01-30-2011, 02:57 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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Either, really.

Who a person is ...is a lot more important than how much they make.
I agree that who they are is more important. Their actions determine their value to me, along with what they have to offer in the way of a future. BOTH are considerations.

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The people who have taken the time to get to know me realize that. The people who don't are the ones who think women are "gold diggers" and that broke men shouldn't be dating.
Dating takes money at some point for a lot of us. We don't all want to spend our "quality time" at the park feeding the ducks. Heck, even duck feed costs money.

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My interactions with the women in my life have been more about talking together than about where we were going out. In fact, most times we sat at home and talked, or played games of some sort. It's about spending quality time with another, not how much money you spend on them.
Those are not the only two scenarios in dating. If you spend money on someone, is that just out of sheer charity or is it so that you can BOTH enjoy whatever activity you are paying for? Come on, now.

It is well established here that you have little to no expectations of the people you date....and that's fine for you and anyone who chooses to be with you. Don't vilify everyone else for not wanting that life for themselves.
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Old 01-30-2011, 04:12 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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PTC, the thread was started because I was being vilified.
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Old 01-30-2011, 04:19 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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Discussing tv shows and commercials isn't a topic that needs to be discussed in length. And griping about the wrong people using handicapped parking spaces is sort of odd, unless you have a handicap. But anyway, that's just a one time gripe and observation to make imo.

One example of a TV show that can be talked about is called, "What Would You Do?" They enact certain scenarios, like a bigoted shopkeeper, and see what people do in that situation. The "victim" and "perpetrator" are both actors.

Another episode asked what you would do if you saw a person put something in someone else's drink.

These scenarios are fuel for further discussion between two people in a partnership.
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Old 01-30-2011, 04:22 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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PTC, the thread was started because I was being vilified.
I understand that, but you have stated your opinions about them and what dating should be about. I responded.
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Old 01-30-2011, 04:40 PM
miu
 
Location: MA/NH
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One example of a TV show that can be talked about is called, "What Would You Do?" They enact certain scenarios, like a bigoted shopkeeper, and see what people do in that situation. The "victim" and "perpetrator" are both actors.

Another episode asked what you would do if you saw a person put something in someone else's drink.

These scenarios are fuel for further discussion between two people in a partnership.
Talking about a tv show like that is fine for getting to know someone and their morals, but what about after you know that person really well and they know you really well also? We already know that you have discussions about the wrong people parking in a handicapped parking spot. I'm guessing that you always take the high moral ground against those that lack integrity and your same standard of personal values... which also seems to include putting down those that have more money than you and waste it on personal luxuries.

Anyway, once I determine if a new friend has similar moral values as I do, I move on to discussions about other aspects of life. There is no need to keep rehashing the obvious and putting down people who think and live differently.
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Old 01-30-2011, 04:55 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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Just because you think you know someone, you may be wrong. Shows like that are worth talking about because you learn more and more about how a person thinks. The most dangerous thing you can try to do is try to predict what someone is thinking, or what they would do in a situation.

How would you like it if a guy grabbed the menu out of your hand and ordered your meal because he "knows" what you want?

I'm not trying to put anyone down--I'm just asking for the same sort of respect to be shown to me. Every individual is entitled to make their own decisions, they are "free" to do so (apparently, within the constraints of what "society" will allow, I'm not much for "society"). What they choose to do is just as valid as what I choose to do, and no one should be derided for their choices.
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Old 01-30-2011, 04:59 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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I understand that, but you have stated your opinions about them and what dating should be about. I responded.

My opinions about people who vilify others that have made different choices?
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