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Old 02-01-2011, 07:08 PM
 
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He can tell you whatever he wants, and that is the only leverage he has, telling you he will quit his job and you'll get nothing. WRONG. You are BOTH entitled to 50% of your assets.

And if he thinks he will "quit his job," think again. The court will order him to pay child support and/or alimony. If he doesn't he goes directly to jail.

Trust me, they talk a big talk.

Get to a shelter. If one is full, find another and they will assist you with everything. It's VERY IMPORTANT though that you call the police whenever he gets abusive, so there is official documentation of his abuse. Not to mention, if you call the police, they will make certain to put you and your children in a shelter.
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Old 02-01-2011, 07:12 PM
 
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Statically speaking, it takes a battered woman 7 times before she leaves for good.

I take you are not familiar with abuse. I volunteer for a domestic violence program and all I can say is battered women live in prisons in their mind. Therapists are needed to help them. No offense , but this OP needs help. If one can not help....
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Old 02-01-2011, 07:52 PM
 
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Please stay safe. I am here if you ever need to talk. Just DM.
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Old 02-01-2011, 08:21 PM
 
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call the cops next time he tries to attack
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Old 02-02-2011, 12:57 PM
 
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Old 02-02-2011, 03:36 PM
 
Location: Kenosha, Wisconsin
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Default Isolated?

C'mon people, how "isolated" could she be. She managed to get on this forum and post a note. Which means she access to a computer, could also go to other web sites for abuse, etc., send out a message, giving her name, address and situation and they will come out and help her.

A person can even go to the "city's web site," and send an email asking them to send the police. Furthermore, she said she ordered a phone? Which means she is getting the mail. She could put a note in her mail box asking the postman to please send help.
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Old 02-02-2011, 04:06 PM
 
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Be careful, I got royally flamed for suggesting the same thing. Apparently I was not being "helpful."

Some feel very strongly that it is not necessary to move one's kids out of an abusive, dysfunctional household UNTIL mom is totally comfy with her decision and feels "ready." Mustn't rush these things.
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Old 02-02-2011, 04:40 PM
 
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Once again , I thank everyone that reached out and offered resources and advice during this very trying season in my life. You guys were very influentual from the support and kindness that you have shown. Although there are obviously some that were negative and here for the wrong reasons, the good ones really out weighed the bad seeds and I am so very grateful for your support that you've given.
God bless

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Old 02-02-2011, 07:32 PM
 
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Once again , I thank everyone that reached out and offered resources and advice during this very trying season in my life. You guys were very influentual from the support and kindness that you have shown. Although there are obviously some that were negative and here for the wrong reasons, the good ones really out weighed the bad seeds and I am so very grateful for your support that you've given.
God bless
I hope everything works out for you and your children. You seem very familiar. I know what your profile says, but are you from Canada?
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Old 02-02-2011, 07:58 PM
 
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Once again , I thank everyone that reached out and offered resources and advice during this very trying season in my life. You guys were very influentual from the support and kindness that you have shown. Although there are obviously some that were negative and here for the wrong reasons, the good ones really out weighed the bad seeds and I am so very grateful for your support that you've given.
God bless
I find prayer, in addition to taking steps, helps too. For example I have had to go back to her house twice in the past week and I prayed that I am safe and that she feels no desire to be violent. The first time she was there but completely calm and the second time she wasn't even home. That's completely out of character for her because the idea of me leaving made her violent before and she goes months at a time without leaving the house--in other words, it's very rare for her to not be home. At worst prayer does nothing and at best it helps, so you can't lose either way. Pray for protection and peace. Pray in positives and it will naturally repel his negative energy. My best of luck to you.
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