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View Poll Results: Would you ever date a loner or consider dating one?
Yes 94 90.38%
No 10 9.62%
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Old 01-30-2011, 05:09 AM
 
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OP, it depends. I'm curious -- how did you meet this loner? Loners are usually hard to get to know, but some of them are well worth the effort of pursuing. My wife was a loner of sorts, many moons ago, when she first intrigued me. I found there is truth to the saying that still waters run deep. Sometimes loners have a hidden pool of magic in them that is wonderous to tap. Sometimes, they're just a*******. If I were you, I'd probably investigate further.
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Old 01-30-2011, 05:22 AM
 
Location: locus amoenus
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why not? I like independent and individualistic people. He should know how to deal with people, but other than that, I'd be happy to date one. In fact, I live with one. I'm a loner myself, so... We both have great friends but they know they'll never see much of either of us lol.
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Old 01-30-2011, 06:04 AM
 
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The question you need to ask yourself is WHY is this person a loner. Then, there is the danger zone with loners in that they will 'cling' to you because you are their only friend and it can get out of hand and quite suffocating. Not all loners are like this, but it's a risk you take.
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Old 01-30-2011, 06:39 AM
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Location: Tampa, Florida
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Nope. I did it once for 3 years and will never do it again.
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Old 01-30-2011, 07:44 AM
 
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I am a loner. I really don't need to be with someone all the time. In fact, I don't enjoy it. I like time to think and I am not a good conversationalist when I am doing this.
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Old 01-30-2011, 08:37 AM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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I see and talk to close friends once in awhile but I am not part of their lives on an everyday basis...I don't have to listen to everyone complain about "getting old" or be put in the middle of "gender bashing." (Where wives complain that their husbands act like "babies" and husbands complain that their wives talk too much etc.)...I don't have to conform to the norms and beliefs and lifestyle of any group because I stay off on the sidelines...This feels great! I enjoy being free and independent! And I do best with other people who are more self-sufficient and independent too...I wouldn't do well if I hooked-up with a man who wanted to spend all of his free time with family and friends and never wanted to be alone with himself...or me.
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Old 01-30-2011, 09:22 AM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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The question you need to ask yourself is WHY is this person a loner. Then, there is the danger zone with loners in that they will 'cling' to you because you are their only friend and it can get out of hand and quite suffocating. Not all loners are like this, but it's a risk you take.
Don't mistake loners with losers. Not the same thing.

Dating in general is a risk you take.

I'd date a loner. Chances are she wouldn't be texting every 2 minutes.
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Old 01-30-2011, 09:25 AM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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The question you need to ask yourself is WHY is this person a loner. Then, there is the danger zone with loners in that they will 'cling' to you because you are their only friend and it can get out of hand and quite suffocating. Not all loners are like this, but it's a risk you take.
Ooops. Didn't catch that. My bad.
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Old 01-30-2011, 09:28 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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I'd date a loner. Chances are she wouldn't be texting every 2 minutes.
You bet!

Being a loner myself, naturally, I would. For one thing, it'd be hypocritical not to; for another, I can't deal with somebody's way too active social life and I prefer a smaller social circle.
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Old 01-30-2011, 11:16 AM
 
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Why is "loner" presumed to be a pejorative term? The loneliest place in the world for many people is a party. Loners are oftentimes far more intelligent, witty, erudite and compelling than the party-animal type.

Some here seem to confuse "loner" with "pathologically anti social." A loner is merely someone who enjoys their own company, spends a lot of time alone and is comfortable with that.
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