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View Poll Results: Would you ever date a loner or consider dating one?
Yes 75 89.29%
No 9 10.71%
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Old 01-30-2011, 10:48 AM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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Why is "loner" presumed to be a pejorative term? The loneliest place in the world for many people is a party. Loners are oftentimes far more intelligent, witty, erudite and compelling than the party-animal type.

Some here seem to confuse "loner" with "pathologically anti social." A loner is merely someone who enjoys their own company, spends a lot of time alone and is comfortable with that.
The wolf has always been misunderstood and feared by the sheep...

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Courtship and Bonding

When the two are about to mate, they bond, sleeping close and touching each other more and more. They will approach each other making quiet whining sounds, mouth each others muzzles, touch noses, and bump there bodies together. There may be mutual grooming and nibbling of each others coats and the two may walk pressed close together. The Male may bow to the female, toss and tilt his head, and lay his legs over her neck in what could only be described as a flirting manner. The two may even sleep side by side.


As the courtship progresses, the male will smell the genital region of the female to determine her readiness to mate, his tongue flicking in and out, testing the air for traces of her sex hormones, If she is not sexually receptive, she will repel the male with growls and snaps of her jaws.
Wolf Country, reproduction, bonding and mating
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Old 01-30-2011, 04:21 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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^Even wolves tend to run in packs.

My motivation is "me and you against the world". The world is not to be trusted.
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Old 01-30-2011, 04:32 PM
 
Location: Reno
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I think I would connect better with someone who was more of a loner, than someone who is a huge social butterfly. Not too long ago I made some post about basically just wanting a boyfriend who also is a best friend. I had that with an ex, and that was probably when I was the happiest in my life. I realize many guys around my age in theirs 20s-30s, are still into bars, clubs, and spending hours out on the weekends with friends and meeting girls, so the idea of finding a guy that isn't into that scene would raise my interest.

I have gone out with a few guys that were perfectly nice and I enjoyed spending time with them, but I could see that they were really into the "going out" and drinking scene and I knew I would hate being a part of that. I would get invited to places with their friends and everything, but would politely decline the invites which in turned, killed any relationship because we just didn't have that lifestyle part in common. None loner types would have killed to have been in my shoes because one of the guy's best friends is a famous baseball player and invited me to go to all these VIP clubs in LA with all drinks covered and a limo covered, but I declined LOL. A couple of my friends were annoyed because these were places that they wanted to go to, but would have to wait forever to have gotten in.

Nope. Still not interested despite it being desired!
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Old 01-30-2011, 05:31 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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^Even wolves tend to run in packs.

My motivation is "me and you against the world". The world is not to be trusted.
I was referring to the "lone wolf".

I disagree that the world is not to be trusted - I have no problem with the world. It's just the people IN it that I don't trust...
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Old 01-30-2011, 05:34 PM
 
Location: SW Missouri
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Yep. Married one too. Two peas in a pod, we are.

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Old 01-30-2011, 05:40 PM
 
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Loners are by far the better partner in a long-term relationship or marriage. Loners are instinctively more intelligent, interesting and monogamous than wild extroverts.

THINK: BILL CLINTON. (Wild extrovert... massively unfaithful).
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Old 01-30-2011, 05:47 PM
 
Location: Lowell, MA
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Loners are by far the better partner in a long-term relationship or marriage. Loners are instinctively more intelligent, interesting and monogamous than wild extroverts.

THINK: BILL CLINTON. (Wild extrovert... massively unfaithful).
Ulysses, I agree!!! I'm a loner and a better partner for me is also a loner. We enjoy each others company, but don't need outside entertainment to keep us happy.
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Old 01-30-2011, 06:55 PM
 
Location: Striving for Avalon
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Speaking as a loner-lite*, I would say yes. When I see couples in each other's company ALL THE TME, I wonder how they can stand each other.

I prefer someone who enjoys my company, but is not dependent on that. Yes, such a person will possess a character that allows them to leave relationships with relative ease. However, we'd ironically have a better relationship for that character.


*Although I can spend days without meaningful contact with people, even I require to visit a particular group of friends. Even when content in a group (visiting a friend & family), I still need some hours at night to unwind.
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Old 01-30-2011, 11:33 PM
 
Location: Atlanta, GA
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I'm a loner, so I would PREFER to date another loner.
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Old 05-08-2013, 04:53 PM
 
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I to am a loner have been for years. Iv tried to figure out why been in a couple long relationships which went well .
But lately it's been just date one after the other never happy with whome I'm with picking them apart in my head
Looking for a reason to push them away .When I'm with somebody after awhile I wishing they would leave or I start regretting having them over be use I would rather be alone .I haven't had any guy friends since high school just don't have anything in common .I don't watch sports go to bars don't understand.I want a woman in my life but being the way I am plus being OCD about cleaning and organization doesn't mix well I know who ever I meet will have friends and will feel like a third wheel and she will wonder why I don't have any friends .Iv tried every dating site known to man thinking this will be the one I find a woman just like me .

Kinda like that episode of Seinfelfd where he meets the girl who likes and dislikes everything like him .Iv told my mom I need a custom made woman to my specs Plus I worry what people r going to think of her don't know why I'm 46 and shouldn't matter .
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