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Old 01-30-2011, 11:50 AM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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Why not just skip the non-verbal signs and body language, and *verbalize* your liking for them? Much simpler...much easier...keeps things ultra-simple, with no need to decode or decipher vague, abstract signals.

Maybe just a basic "You know, I really like you", said with a smile, couldn't hurt in that regard?
Actually that opens up a whole new can of worms...
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Old 01-30-2011, 11:52 AM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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Subtle indeed.

She didn't happen to arrange the mushrooms in the shape of her phone number, did she?
unfortunately no
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Old 01-30-2011, 11:57 AM
 
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Well ok, riddle me this good sir. At a restaurant last night, I noticed a busgirl who was very cute. We made eye contact, but broke it off quickly. And that happened quite a few times. Then she brought me my pizza, and when I said thanks she said 'mmhmmm' and gave me a smile that a waitress doesn't seem to usually give.

Was she interested or just very nice?
So why didn't you smile and ask her "Are you always this friendly to your customers, or should I ask you for your number?

Geeez. Why make things so mysterious?
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Old 01-30-2011, 12:03 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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But even with that point in agreement, the "tips" that these cheesy articles give are usually the same every time. Plus, they often contradict each other...

"She'll cross and uncross her legs" says one mentor; another says, "She'll sit with her legs toward you"; yet another one advises "She'll sit with one leg slung over the back of the couch"

In the process of trying to simplify things, these articles sometimes just cause more confusion, because then we literal guys go on a "sign hunt" and end up missing the big picture. It's like what I tell my self-defense students - don't focus on individual points on your attacker; just keep their entire body and demeanor in mind.
Gimme a break! You're not the idiot you're trying to be every time the subject comes up. I suppose you don't know who likes whom on this forum, either... (rolling eyes missing at this point)

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Old 01-30-2011, 12:05 PM
 
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Actually that opens up a whole new can of worms...
Lol...very true indeed, my friend

I guess I forgot about that part of the equation...
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Old 01-30-2011, 12:48 PM
 
Location: Hawaii
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I need it to be ultra-simple, since I'm an ultra-simple kinda' guy.

Just strip and mount me. I'll get it. Doesn't matter, public or private - no games, OK?
haha! love it!

I'm going to be no help because I did nothing when I met my husband but laugh at his jokes which I would have done for anyone whos jokes I liked. I think he knew I was attracted to him, but I didn't do anything purposely to show that. Then he asked me out and I said yes. So I suppose that was pretty clear interest.

I just asked him how he knew and he said "I dunno just intuition?" So he's no help either.
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Old 01-30-2011, 12:53 PM
 
Location: Hawaii
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smile and ask her "Are you always this friendly to your customers, or should I ask you for your number?
I would like it if someone said that to me. Does that help? If I was not interested, I would say. "I'm always this friendly, but thanks. Have a great day "
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Old 01-30-2011, 12:54 PM
 
Location: Where Dance Music comes first
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People just need to proactively learn/understand body language in general. It helps a lot.
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Old 01-30-2011, 01:34 PM
 
Location: Where it's boring and flat
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If I were around a guy I was interested in, say we had just met randomly somewhere or we were on a date, I would:

  • Compliment him, maybe on some aspect of his appearance, or other aspect of himself. Like his eyes, or his laugh, or something like that. Obviously, I wouldn't do this if it weren't sincere, but I've seen guys with gorgeous eyes or a great smile or a really great laugh or something, and I'll tell them that to their face if I'm interested. Men compliment women all the time to show interest; my guess is that if a woman does the same thing, a guy is going to love that.

  • Listen to him talk, and encourage him to talk to me about himself. I want to know what he enjoys, what he thinks about life, what sort of things is he really passionate about in terms of hobbies, beliefs, etc. No, I really don't give a rat's ass about his bank account or his salary or what kind of car he drives. I want to know what kind of person he is. Hopefully, if I'm showing a genuine interest in what makes him tick, he will reciprocate by wanting to know more about me, as well.

  • Related to the above, I would endeavor to take (NOT fake) an interest in the things that interest him. Obviously, this only works if you don't have to fake it. If I find myself attracted to a guy but it turns out that his number one primary interest is WWE wrestling and his second biggest interest is football, NASCAR or tracking his investments, I have to write him off as a loss and move on, because we aren't likely to find much in the way of common interests, no matter how sexy he might be with his mouth shut.

  • If we're at a bar, I might offer to buy him a drink. Guys to that for women they're interested in, so again, my guess is that if a woman turns the tables, the guy will like it, too.

  • Nod, smile, agree with him on things where I sincerely agree; on things where I don't, encourage him to explain and expand on his POV so that I will understand him more fully.

  • Laugh at his jokes.
There's more, but that's enough for starters.
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Old 01-30-2011, 01:36 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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If there is one unmistakable sign, it's the touch!
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