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Do you consider someones relationship with their familly when determining their potential as a mate?
Would you consider it a red flag if a person you were interested in told you that they are estranged from a parent? Dosen't that mean they will have difficulty in other intimate relationships?
I am not talking in cases where there was emotional or physical abuse.
I agree it depends on the reason. I don't think up front it should be considered a reason to stay away from them; some people have toxic parents that they just can't deal with. You can't change a parent so if one has made the difficult decision of cutting one, or another family member out of their life, that may have been their only choice.
Do you consider someones relationship with their familly when determining their potential as a mate?
Would you consider it a red flag if a person you were interested in told you that they are estranged from a parent? Dosen't that mean they will have difficulty in other intimate relationships?
I am not talking in cases where there was emotional or physical abuse.
Just curious. Thanks.
There are cases of super good kids/people coming from crappy parents.
Just like you can have crappy kids come from two really good parents.
did they disown the parents or did the parents disown them? it makes all the difference in my mind, and i would need to hear the story of what happened. THEN i would need to take that with a grain of salt and remember there is another side to the story.
Do you consider someones relationship with their familly when determining their potential as a mate?
Would you consider it a red flag if a person you were interested in told you that they are estranged from a parent? Dosen't that mean they will have difficulty in other intimate relationships?
I am not talking in cases where there was emotional or physical abuse.
You'd have to hear why he is estranged from his parents. We don't pick our parents and some of them are real doozies with tons and tons of problems. Toxic. Maybe he has those type of parents. I would have to hear why he is estranged from his parents before I made a choice to date him.
Boy, I guess you haven't come from a dysfunctional or toxic family. I have and I'm estranged from most of them with exception of my mother. I hold her at arm's length though. I wouldn't want someone to judge me because I couldn't stand to be verbally, physically, mental and emtionally abused anymore.
Until you're in someone shoes that has gone through very bad times with a family member or family, then you shouldn't judge.
One of the nicest guy I know got disowned by his parents because he moved on to a career job and stopped working in the family business at a miserable salary. He tries to stay in contact but they reject him and outright told him he ceased to exist the day he gave up his job.
Obviously the parents are the problem here.
The situation is rarely that clean cut but being estranged from parents will be a red flag depending on the context.
Families can break up for the dumbest thing. Sometimes it just happens and it's hard to tell who's at fault.
You might want to learn a little more about why they are estranged. Speaking in generalities, I would say "no", it does not matter and would not be a red flag. People can do very crappy things to one another, even families. Especially families, now that I think about it.
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