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I don't know which of you is nuttier, but the bottom line is..it's over, so sever the contact once and for all. It's the healthiest thing for you. The time you waste on this guy is preventing you from finding a good relationship.
How do you deal with someone (you love) who has literally lost their mind?
My x (he dumped me about 3 weeks ago) has become nothing more than a shell of his former self since he has been with me. Im an intense individual. I tend to not have a filter and have been known to wear men down. But because I love this guy I've done away with all of my former bad habits and have opened myself up to him. Unfortunately I was still too much for him to handle. He left me, stating that he needs to seek psychiatric help for the stress I caused him during our relationship.
Ie...
~Felt he needed to be constantly talk to me (text/email/phone)
~Felt like he needed to see me everyday (or I would become upset)
~Could not handle the thought of upsetting me
etc etc.
But because he still wants to be with me and so we've worked out a plan that he will take time to treat himself and then we will re-evaluate our relationship. Now Im stuck in limbo, trying to go out, regain some sense of normalcy, but he keeps popping in and out of my life. Asking me out to dinner. Texting me "I love you". And I love him to death so I'm just trying to support him at a distance.
However, he states that all of this anxiety and stress has never existed in his life before me. Mind you his mother, 2 sisters, and himself all have under-active thyroid and take either anti-depressants or anxiety medication (he is not currently on any medication). Im sure its a combination. But I cant help but think...of course hes never had stress in previous relationships as they were short and inconsistent.
Im beginning to notice hes no longer in control of his feelings. Yells, gets upset over nothing, crying, etc. I don't know what to do anymore. Any suggestions?
Based on the two bolded statements you made in your posting. I just see this as a toxic relationship. I wouldn't be interested in staying with an individual that really believes I cause him that much stress. And why would you put yourself in a position to want to be with someone who said those things about you?
Very toxic. I just don't see this as a meant to be kind of relationship.
I think the two of you need to do exactly what he asked for. Stay away from each other and take a complete break. Let him work out his problems and you work on your own.
Do positive things and concentrate on things in your life that need improving. Forget dating for a while. You don't need more drama. Learn to live with yourself.
yeah, i don't get this. it sounds like you are insecure, and it freaked him out, and now he needs help and he keeps coming back like a junkie.
if you actually "love him to death" you would break off all ties. it sounds like this is a two-way crazystreet and you are part of the problem. give the guy a freaking break. don't give him false hopes. don't keep on making him think something might work out. if you were that clingy in the beginning, do him a favor, let him go and go get some help for yourself.
How do you deal with someone (you love) who has literally lost their mind?
My x (he dumped me about 3 weeks ago) has become nothing more than a shell of his former self since he has been with me. Im an intense individual. I tend to not have a filter and have been known to wear men down. But because I love this guy I've done away with all of my former bad habits and have opened myself up to him. Unfortunately I was still too much for him to handle.
He left me, stating that he needs to seek psychiatric help for the stress I caused him during our relationship.
Ie...
~Felt he needed to be constantly talk to me (text/email/phone)
~Felt like he needed to see me everyday (or I would become upset)
~Could not handle the thought of upsetting me
etc etc.
But because he still wants to be with me and so we've worked out a plan that he will take time to treat himself and then we will re-evaluate our relationship. Now Im stuck in limbo, trying to go out, regain some sense of normalcy, but he keeps popping in and out of my life. Asking me out to dinner. Texting me "I love you". And I love him to death so I'm just trying to support him at a distance.
However, he states that all of this anxiety and stress has never existed in his life before me. Mind you his mother, 2 sisters, and himself all have under-active thyroid and take either anti-depressants or anxiety medication (he is not currently on any medication). Im sure its a combination. But I cant help but think...of course hes never had stress in previous relationships as they were short and inconsistent.
Im beginning to notice hes no longer in control of his feelings. Yells, gets upset over nothing, crying, etc. I don't know what to do anymore. Any suggestions?
Yeah, leave him alone.
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