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I've been intimate with this guy 2 months now. So here's the deal. He always wants to meet my girlfriends. He insisted on meeting this one when she came for holidays and even before seeing her he wanted both of us to go clubbing with him alone (no other guy).
When they finally met, he tried to impress her by talking about his promotion and offering to spend time with her on his holiday while I am back at work!
Then he insisted on taking us out, which he never did with me after we got intimate, when I ask him to take me out he always found excuses not to. But he drove us all around town just like she wanted.
Then at a bar, I saw her removing his hand from her butt and standing up suddenly when he tried to hug her and she joined me on the dance floor. Then he asked her to dance, several times (not me) and she refused, then she pretended she was sick so that we'd live the place, and he kept insisting that we go to a club (a friend told me that men do that so they can hold the girl) and she kept saying she was sick because of the smoke. So then we took her home and he was like we need to do this again, I'll find a club that doesn't have smoke!
He knows she's traveling back next week.The thing now is he has her number and knows were she lives and is very confident about his charm. I'm gonna break up with him, and I already told her that, but do you think I can ask her how he behaved at the club before I do? Just to confirm what I saw and make sure I am not over reacting? Will she tell me?
My boyfriends often hit on my close girlfriends, why is that? What is it with me?
You already know the answer. Delete his phone number. Ignore messages, delete texts, do not go anywhere with him, including out for coffee. He doesn't even deserve a 'break up' conversation.
You want to ask your friend how he behaved -- why? You saw what you saw, you feel what you feel, and your feelings are important and legitimate and you are not wrong. You want to say to your girl friend "did I really see him put his hand on your a** and while you tell me here's a salt shaker for you to rub salt in my open weeping wounds"
You:
"My boyfriends often hit on my close girlfriends, why is that? What is it with me?"
Your standards are too low. Start expecting good behavior, insist on it, and if you don't get it the guy isn't worth your time.
Look, OP. Every guy wants it (unless they're gay). Doesn't mean you have to give over. Let them want it. Don't put out for guys with no integrity. No exceptions.
Wow r u serious?! I'm sorry you had to go through that. But you handled the situation very well, cus if dat was me, there would had been some problems for that guy and I woulda left him there at the club. That is just disrespectful! I totally agree with birdinmigration. Just lose all contacts with him and don't even bring it up to your friend. You know what you saw. Dust it off and move on to the next. Sweetheart any dude who is disrespectful and at that, can be so low to try to mess/flirt with your friend right there in your face certainly do not deserve YOU!
One more thing to think about. Your girl friends will start losing respect for you if you keep dating loser-ish guys who hit on them. Nobody can relax in that situation. It's unpleasant.
(Don't fool yourself that guys who drive you around discussing their promotions and splashing out on clubs and dinners can't be losers, a rich guy can be as much of a jerk as a poor one)
One more thing to think about. Your girl friends will start losing respect for you if you keep dating loser-ish guys who hit on them. Nobody can relax in that situation. It's unpleasant.
(Don't fool yourself that guys who drive you around discussing their promotions and splashing out on clubs and dinners can't be losers, a rich guy can be as much of a jerk as a poor one)
You're right, but he's not even rich cause he has a cheap car and did not spend that much. And true my friends are loosing respect.
I am usually very demanding on guys, but then they respect me but no one dates me.
Here is an idea for you. Why don't you talk to your girlfriend and apologize to her for the way your soon-to-be-ex boyfriend acted that night. Tell her you are very sorry he made her uncomfortable and harrassed her... maybe she will open up to you and start talking about what he did!!!! You won't even have to ask her, just start apologizing.
I think the reason he is doing it is because he wants a threesome. Maybe that is why all your past exes have tried to hit on your girlfriends. They think something is going to happen if he gets close with her, and he is already going out with you.
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Maybe that is why all your past exes have tried to hit on your girlfriends. They think something is going to happen if he gets close with her, and he is already going out with you.
