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Originally Posted by kickinit
Agree! I believe this post was about someone leaving another because they had lung cancer. But there are many unselfish reasons people might forget about you.
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Well, the larger question is this: Are you a friend enough to be there when someone is going through a very difficult ordeal? Or are you just a friend as long as it's not too emotionally taxing?
When my father died when I was 22, it was a terrible time. He had an aneurysm, lapsed into a coma, and died a week later. Help came from the most unexpected quarters among people I knew. People dropped by the hospital, called, and volunteered to run errands on behalf of my family.
Then there were the ones who simply disappeared. Nothing. Not a word, only to pop back in a month later as if nothing had happened. One or two offered up a lame excuse, but that was about it. And one of them happened to be my girlfriend at the time. She and I had dated for six months. She called me after the funeral and gave me the, "I'm sorry, but I just can't handle funerals" line. I thanked her, hung up and never called her again.
It was a valuable lesson early on what true friendship really is. A friend is with you through thick and thin. Otherwise, they're just drinking buddies. I've nursed friends through divorces and bankruptcies, and kept vigil over one as he died of a brain tumor.
None of these things were things I would ever want to experience again. But if you ever face one of these difficult situations, ask yourself, "What would I hope my friends would do for me?" And you'll have your answer.