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Old 07-07-2012, 10:50 AM
 
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If you're really perceptive, but feelings often deceive, especially to those who aren't.
Yes, it's about your ability to perceive and body language is huge.
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Old 07-07-2012, 12:30 PM
 
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I don't like fake nice people. You can be nice without blowing smoke up someones rear end. Often times, the sweet and innocent types are far from it. They'll smile to your face, then knife you in the back later. I prefer guys like myself. We're always on your side. We might forget the cards and letters though. The truly nice guy has swagger. Other men seem to gravitate towards him. It's not for blowing kisses. It's because when the s*** goes down, you always know who has your back.



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Old 07-07-2012, 12:37 PM
 
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"I should come with you". No, I might have to move fast and I don't need too much linguine holding me back fatso! The truth be told, you are my friend. I like you so much I'm taking the risks. You have a family.
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Old 07-07-2012, 12:56 PM
 
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I compliment people all the time when I can see that they have made a special effort, whether it's their hair, clothing, or their brand new kitchen remodel. Just because their sense of style may not match my own doesn't mean they won't appreciate a kind word.

My husband always tells me I look beautiful, even when I am bloated, or I have a red runny nose and frizzy hair. I love him for that.

There's nothing wrong with being "fake" nice. I wish there was more of it in the world, rather than less, in my opinion.
I think what you mention above is actualy more sincere nice. Especially the bolded.

Also, I think the comments about talking about other people behind their back are true. Now everyone gets frustrated, but constant behind the back talk about people close to you is a huge sign for me.

I agree with the one poster that mentioned certain people have difficulty smiling at certain times. I have given flowers or a gift to women, and they didn't know exactly how to respond immediately. Interestinly, one woman thrned out to probably be the nicest person I ever met, and the other woman turned out to be.... not so nice.

I have learned that if my instincts are yelling at me, I better listen. Giving the benefit of the doubt to certain people when my instincts are yelling at me doesn't go well.

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Old 09-01-2012, 09:15 PM
 
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Faking niceness may be ok until the real truth comes out. Then if the real truth comes out, then the other person will know that you were being fake.
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Old 09-02-2012, 09:08 PM
 
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I would never advise a woman to date a "nice guy". Those dudes carry years of baggage
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Old 09-03-2012, 11:48 PM
 
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Nice is just fake, period. Nice is a pretense for social etiquette.

How I tell when someone is being genuine with me? Is when they tell me or treat me in a way that I can tell is authentic and sincere, even if they are rough around the edges.

Nice = polite, which is not a bad thing. Impolite does not always equate to being genuine. Someone who doesn't act in a way that's contradictory in their actions and words is more likely to be honest to me.
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Old 09-04-2012, 02:39 AM
 
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Nice is just fake, period. Nice is a pretense for social etiquette.

How I tell when someone is being genuine with me? Is when they tell me or treat me in a way that I can tell is authentic and sincere, even if they are rough around the edges.

Nice = polite, which is not a bad thing. Impolite does not always equate to being genuine. Someone who doesn't act in a way that's contradictory in their actions and words is more likely to be honest to me.
Nice can also be naive or nonconfrontational.
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Old 09-04-2012, 05:37 AM
 
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Fake nice doesn't last. Real nice does.
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Old 09-04-2012, 07:48 AM
 
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Perfect test to tell the difference.

If you've known the person for a while, discuss a small problem you're having. Don't be dramatic about it. Just something that frustrates you. Watch the other person's reaction. If that person's eyes glaze over or he glances at his watch or changes the subject, then you have a faker on your hand. If the person sympathizes or tries to think of ways to solve the issue, then he's the genuine article.
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