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I don't know who the hell is saying that. People are saying that being a conceited ******* is bad, yes. Nobody is saying that being a doctor = being a conceited ******* though.
I agree with this. Sometimes when I read posts on CD I just shake my head in confusion. Conceited, stuck-up, and cocky are not attributes that most people aspire to have. Confident is something else entirely. Most confident people just are confident in their ability or abilities. They don't have to talk about it or show off. Quiet confidence is very attractive...conceit is a turn-off.
There is reason why some successful folks are hated. In sports, good players are booed in the opposite team's stadium.
You can still be nice, honest along with other qualities. There is a reason why women go to aholes.
You assume wrong. MOST women do not go for the bad boy but you are not living life, you are living through a TV series or watch reality TV and think it is the real world. It is not. Don't assume about the whole population of certain people just because you might have had 1 bad experience.
What you are seeking, I believe, is confidence not arrogance, conceit and being struck-up. Those qualities will not get you anyone and you will be a very lonely person.
I agree with this. Sometimes when I read posts on CD I just shake my head in confusion. Conceited, stuck-up, and cocky are not attributes that most people aspire to have. Confident is something else entirely. Most confident people just are confident in their ability or abilities. They don't have to talk about it or show off. Quiet confidence is very attractive...conceit is a turn-off.
So they shouldn't tell what they are good at or like to do because someone might get offended? There is such a thing as being too quiet and that is NOT confidence. Take the poster who always backs away and never posts any follow ups after someone slaps his or her face. You aren't confident. You are a coward.
So they shouldn't tell what they are good at or like to do because someone might get offended? There is such a thing as being too quiet and that is NOT confidence. Take the poster who always backs away and never posts any follow ups after someone slaps his or her face. You aren't confident. You are a coward.
Nobody has said there's anything wrong with saying, "I'm rather good at neurosurgery" or "I like to go golfing in Pebble Beach every weekend." Part of what matters is context as well as tone. If someone asks you what you do, of course there's nothing wrong with stating it.
I think you're the one with confidence issues if you're constantly trying to validate your position on an argument that only you are a part of.
And for the... second or third time I believe, NOBODY is saying there's anything wrong with confidence. There IS a difference between being confident and being arrogant/conceited.
Nobody has said there's anything wrong with saying, "I'm rather good at neurosurgery" or "I like to go golfing in Pebble Beach every weekend." Part of what matters is context as well as tone. If someone asks you what you do, of course there's nothing wrong with stating it.
I think you're the one with confidence issues if you're constantly trying to validate your position on an argument that only you are a part of.
No confidence issues here. I am one that makes people jealous though. You learn to live with it. It's not my fault I did everything I could to be good at something. They have the same opportunity and chose not to do it. Don't take it out on me.
Here is a good one for you. Take one of the best looking gals on here. Not only is she good looking, she is very talented or has something special about her. I bet the other gals knife her in the back and hate her. lol
Acceptance gained from playing a role is counterfeit and empty, OP, you'll never be able to connect with another person if you don't show them who you really are. Your beliefs, your values, your commitments, your inner realities are all reflected in how you live your life. Being authentic is the only way to find love and acceptance.
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I am one that makes people jealous though. You learn to live with it. It's not my fault I did everything I could to be good at something. They have the same opportunity and chose not to do it. Don't take it out on me.
