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good idea / bad idea??? thoughts??? (info - she is single, got out of a relationship about 4 weeks ago, she and i have mildly danced around the notion of us dating in fact even when she was in her relationship with the other guy, we also work together).
If you don't let her know your feelings now, then when? Just don't rush into anything if she just got out of a relationship as it might be too over whelming. Since you don't seem to know her feelings start with a small gift and perhaps lunch first. When you change your relationship with her, it is best to go slowly at first. It might take a little while for her to change her mode of thinking about you. Best of luck.
good idea / bad idea??? thoughts??? (info - she is single, got out of a relationship about 4 weeks ago, she and i have mildly danced around the notion of us dating in fact even when she was in her relationship with the other guy, we also work together).
I wouldn't do it. It seems a little slimy, like you're moving in for the kill to get her while she's desperate. (I don't think you actually think that, but it's how it might appear.)
I would continue to see her, but give her the space to work through her past relationship. If she starts giving you hints? Then go ahead and flirt back. It also depends on how long they dated. If it was a 5 year relationship, I think moving in after only a month or two sets you up as a rebound. If they only dated for less than a year, it might be okay after another month to gently broach the idea of you two dating. You need to be a bit extra cautious in this instance, IMHO, since you work together.
I wouldn't do it. It seems a little slimy, like you're moving in for the kill to get her while she's desperate. (I don't think you actually think that, but it's how it might appear.)
I would continue to see her, but give her the space to work through her past relationship. If she starts giving you hints? Then go ahead and flirt back. It also depends on how long they dated. If it was a 5 year relationship, I think moving in after only a month or two sets you up as a rebound. If they only dated for less than a year, it might be okay after another month to gently broach the idea of you two dating. You need to be a bit extra cautious in this instance, IMHO, since you work together.
You can always give her "a flower"... If I was grieving over a failed relationship... I would appreciate a flower or a nice jesture on valentine's day... the note can say... "from a friend on valentines day"... what's slimmy about that???
You can always give her "a flower"... If I was grieving over a failed relationship... I would appreciate a flower or a nice jesture on valentine's day... the note can say... "from a friend on valentines day"... what's slimmy about that???
Could go either way. From a true friend? I would appreciate that flower. From a guy trying to move in on me (like the OP)?? Not as certain. If she's ready to date again, maybe she takes that as a great encouragement, but if she's not then I worry it comes across as pushy... maybe slimy was the wrong word. I still wouldn't do it unless she's really giving out some strong hints, particularly since they work together and things could get weird.
If you are just a good friend that cares for her, a small gift that says from XXXX, always your friend....that's nice. If you are seriously interested in dating her and like her that way, then this is passive aggressive and will be taken the wrong way...be upfront that you are interested in romantic dating if that's the case, express yourself verbally
good idea / bad idea??? thoughts??? (info - she is single, got out of a relationship about 4 weeks ago, she and i have mildly danced around the notion of us dating in fact even when she was in her relationship with the other guy, we also work together).
Bad idea. If you're just friends, it sends the wrong message. If you want to date her, flowers is a quick way to end up in the friend zone.
Nothing good can come from this.
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