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A while back I made my first trip to a Gentleman's Club and was quite shocked with all things that actually happened. Let me start of by saying I am 25 old guy who never really has had a girlfriend before. I have been trying to interact with people and going out to social places like book clubs, volunteer events, and bars. Well one of my friends, who lives far away in San Diego, was saying what I really needed to is visit a strip club. In fact, he suggested a club and finally convinced me this was an experience every guy needed to have. I will admit the thought of seeing hot girls was definitely a turn-on for me.
So I finally dragged myself into the club and find it is a full nude club! That made me sort of nervous but the atmosphere actually turned to be quite different from a normal bar. Last time I went to the bar with my friends, all guys were busy chasing the few hot girls in bar. Here I soon found myself being approached by the hot waitress and of course strippers wanting me to buy dances or buy them drinks. All I had to do was just sit there and strippers would come by and sit on my lap and attempt to flirt! Too bad in real bar the girls aren't like this at all.
Anyhow, the real shocking part was the shady, if not semi-illegal, activities going on in the club. In the back corners you could see ladies giving lap dances to guys who seemed have their pants "loose"! In fact, I actually saw one guy put his hands down there. I finally decided to get a lap dance and the girl convinced me to go the VIP room. I am already nervous having this hot girl alone with me. Then during the 2nd dance she says I should feel free to touch her! I end up just touching her waist and got completely embarrassed. So after that dance I ask to her to stop, pay her and quickly exit club and drive home. To say truth this was a fairly uncomfortable and shocking experience for guy like me.
Of course, after my friend hears this he says I was a complete p**sy for fleeing right when good part started. To say the truth I do feel like I ran away from club a bit too fast from just touching this girl's waist. My friend's solution is to go back to this club or another and this time buy couple more lap dances to see where it goes. The horny part of me definitely want to hit the Gentleman's clubs to check out the hot girls. The other part of me thinks it is bad idea and probably will be an uncomfortable experience. Do guys think I actually go back to one?
they want your money buddy, that's all. if you can accept that fact and have the money to burn, feel free!
A while back I made my first trip to a Gentleman's Club and was quite shocked with all things that actually happened. Let me start of by saying I am 25 old guy who never really has had a girlfriend before. I have been trying to interact with people and going out to social places like book clubs, volunteer events, and bars. Well one of my friends, who lives far away in San Diego, was saying what I really needed to is visit a strip club. In fact, he suggested a club and finally convinced me this was an experience every guy needed to have. I will admit the thought of seeing hot girls was definitely a turn-on for me.
So I finally dragged myself into the club and find it is a full nude club! That made me sort of nervous but the atmosphere actually turned to be quite different from a normal bar. Last time I went to the bar with my friends, all guys were busy chasing the few hot girls in bar. Here I soon found myself being approached by the hot waitress and of course strippers wanting me to buy dances or buy them drinks. All I had to do was just sit there and strippers would come by and sit on my lap and attempt to flirt! Too bad in real bar the girls aren't like this at all.
Anyhow, the real shocking part was the shady, if not semi-illegal, activities going on in the club. In the back corners you could see ladies giving lap dances to guys who seemed have their pants "loose"! In fact, I actually saw one guy put his hands down there. I finally decided to get a lap dance and the girl convinced me to go the VIP room. I am already nervous having this hot girl alone with me. Then during the 2nd dance she says I should feel free to touch her! I end up just touching her waist and got completely embarrassed. So after that dance I ask to her to stop, pay her and quickly exit club and drive home. To say truth this was a fairly uncomfortable and shocking experience for guy like me.
Of course, after my friend hears this he says I was a complete p**sy for fleeing right when good part started. To say the truth I do feel like I ran away from club a bit too fast from just touching this girl's waist. My friend's solution is to go back to this club or another and this time buy couple more lap dances to see where it goes. The horny part of me definitely want to hit the Gentleman's clubs to check out the hot girls. The other part of me thinks it is bad idea and probably will be an uncomfortable experience. Do guys think I actually go back to one?
Dude! Go back and ask how much?!! Lots of these girls are escorts if they "like" you. So go back and get laid. But remember these girls are not really into you. Don't get emotionally attached.
So I finally dragged myself into the club and find it is a full nude club! That made me sort of nervous but the atmosphere actually turned to be quite different from a normal bar. Last time I went to the bar with my friends, all guys were busy chasing the few hot girls in bar. Here I soon found myself being approached by the hot waitress and of course strippers wanting me to buy dances or buy them drinks. All I had to do was just sit there and strippers would come by and sit on my lap and attempt to flirt! Too bad in real bar the girls aren't like this at all.
Anyhow, the real shocking part was the shady, if not semi-illegal, activities going on in the club. In the back corners you could see ladies giving lap dances to guys who seemed have their pants "loose"! In fact, I actually saw one guy put his hands down there. I finally decided to get a lap dance and the girl convinced me to go the VIP room. I am already nervous having this hot girl alone with me. Then during the 2nd dance she says I should feel free to touch her! I end up just touching her waist and got completely embarrassed. So after that dance I ask to her to stop, pay her and quickly exit club and drive home. To say truth this was a fairly uncomfortable and shocking experience for guy like me.
Of course, after my friend hears this he says I was a complete p**sy for fleeing right when good part started. To say the truth I do feel like I ran away from club a bit too fast from just touching this girl's waist. My friend's solution is to go back to this club or another and this time buy couple more lap dances to see where it goes. The horny part of me definitely want to hit the Gentleman's clubs to check out the hot girls. The other part of me thinks it is bad idea and probably will be an uncomfortable experience. Do guys think I actually go back to one?
Maybe if you go there enough to lose your nervousness around the strippers you will be able to act less nervous in front of women in the rest of the world as well? ...just a theory.
I've only been to a stripclub once, for me it felt uncomfortable, but not because I felt nervous around the hot women, more because I felt kind of dirty like one of the old saggy "gentlemen" who sat around in the same joint acting respectless towards the women and taking cheap pinches when they got the chance etc.
I would watch out to not get hooked on going to strip-clubs as a habit though.
I'm a woman, I don't have a problem with strip clubs, that's their job and everyone has to work. I would have a problem if I was married to or dating someone that felt it necessary to frequent a club. I have been to them myself as well. No biggie. It is a fantasy thing, you're not meant to go there and spend an excess amount of money though but you did. If you felt uncomfortable then that's a reason for you not to go back.
Maybe you should spend money towards self help to have better luck with women that don't work in strip clubs. Just a thought.
dude, if you get a girlfriend, you get a personal stripper and you won't be all uncomfortable (hopefully).
I cant figure out what it is!! Everytime mir86 mentions anything regarding stripping,sex or nudity, I break out in cold sweats,heart palpatations,weak knees and double vision!!!!WHEW!!!!!!!!!!
I dont htink you should go back. You spent WAYY too much money. Your gonna develop a vice and be broke and tortured by it for the rest of your life. Spend money on dressing better, going to more social events, and on nice dates.
I can relate to you 100%. The first time I ever went into a strip club was when I was about your age and I found it extremely uncomfrotable. I had friends pushing me to spend more money and to take part in the dances. However, some people like it so much they make a lifestyle out of it, which is wrong. Glorifying women for their A%% and breasts is extremely incorrect and in general we can blame the porn industry and neglectful behavior of parents for these outcomes. When I first entered a strip club several years ago I felt somewhat ashamed, as if I was adding to society's over-sexed problem of trashy behavior. However, if all you were looking for was a fun night out then it's no big deal. I'm all for the once in a great while night out with the guys. But, some people make a habit and lifestyle out of it and it can become an addiction. You said yourself, "If only REAL women were like this." Real women, what we would refer to as real women are NOT strippers and they are not people who are hungry for sex with strangers. I think you mean if women were more aggressive and perhaps approachable they would be easier to speak to and I agree with that.
What I am hearing though is that since you haven't been in a relationship and are 25 that you wanted to try things out on a stripper. This is something you mentioned in your post. Therefore, you do correlate speaking to a stripper and the possibility of a relationship on somewhat of the same level and trust me, they are nothing alike. DO NOT think you are in a relationship with these women when they dance for you. They are real people, but they are merely show and are satisfying a want and need, just like the man or woman who bags your groceries. I can 100% see where your logic comes in, but trust me, strippers are trained sex professionals and literally will talk the pants off you if the dollar is right. I understand that meeting a classy woman who comes from a good home can be difficult, and trust me I deal with this every day. But, my advice would be NOT to look for reality in a strip club. If you do you will go home broke, alone and dissapointed. Understand, a strip club is a night of fictional fun and leave it at that.
Men in general spend so much money in strip clubs because a stripper has no standards. Remember that. You are not special to them...
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I finally decided to get a lap dance and the girl convinced me to go the VIP room. I am already nervous having this hot girl alone with me. Then during the 2nd dance she says I should feel free to touch her!
I end up just touching her waist and got completely embarrassed. So after that dance I ask to her to stop, pay her and quickly exit club and drive home. To say truth this was a fairly uncomfortable and shocking experience for guy like me.
To say the truth I do feel like I ran away from club a bit too fast from just touching this girl's waist. My friend's solution is to go back to this club or another and this time buy couple more lap dances to see where it goes. The horny part of me definitely want to hit the Gentleman's clubs to check out the hot girls. The other part of me thinks it is bad idea and probably will be an uncomfortable experience. Do guys think I actually go back to one?
