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Old 02-13-2011, 04:04 PM
 
Location: Las Vegas, NV
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That is the question.

Im in between jobs right now and was only able to spend about $7.50 on my gf for Valentines Day. I got her a box of chocolates and a dvd about Lady Gaga (I would rather give her that than flowers, because a DVD will last a lot longer, plus she LOVES Gaga)

I also took the time to make and print a card myself on the computer for her. I had done the same for Christmas as well, making her a card myself. I used paint so it looks somewhat primitive, but I really put out an effort for it.

What makes me feel bad is that she bought some prime rib steaks saying she wanted to have a nice Valentine's Day dinner. I plan on cooking it (anytime we have a meal where steak is involved, I'm the one who cooks it) But even though Im between jobs right now, I feel like it was a blow to my pride because I felt like I was the one who should have payed for not just the steaks, but the entire $80 she spent on the groceries even though right now I have no way to. I start a new job tomorrow but I wont see my first paycheck until the end of the month

Is it a rule that a guy MUST spend a lot of money on his girl for Valentine's Day? I have a part time job at Kmart (I say in between jobs because I lost a job I was doing when not at Kmart, Kmart gives me 8-12 hrs a week, not enough to survive on) I see male customers come to my store and spend $50+ easily on their wives or girlfriends for tomorrow, and I feel like a deadbeat because Im broke even though its through no fault of my own
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Old 02-13-2011, 04:08 PM
 
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That is the question.

Im in between jobs right now and was only able to spend about $7.50 on my gf for Valentines Day. I got her a box of chocolates and a dvd about Lady Gaga (I would rather give her that than flowers, because a DVD will last a lot longer, plus she LOVES Gaga)

I also took the time to make and print a card myself on the computer for her. I had done the same for Christmas as well, making her a card myself. I used paint so it looks somewhat primitive, but I really put out an effort for it.

What makes me feel bad is that she bought some prime rib steaks saying she wanted to have a nice Valentine's Day dinner. I plan on cooking it (anytime we have a meal where steak is involved, I'm the one who cooks it) But even though Im between jobs right now, I feel like it was a blow to my pride because I felt like I was the one who should have payed for not just the steaks, but the entire $80 she spent on the groceries even though right now I have no way to. I start a new job tomorrow but I wont see my first paycheck until the end of the month

Is it a rule that a guy MUST spend a lot of money on his girl for Valentine's Day? I have a part time job at Kmart (I say in between jobs because I lost a job I was doing when not at Kmart, Kmart gives me 8-12 hrs a week, not enough to survive on) I see male customers come to my store and spend $50+ easily on their wives or girlfriends for tomorrow, and I feel like a deadbeat because Im broke even though its through no fault of my own
Valentine's is a trumped up pseudo holiday.
You got a box of chocolates and a CD for her for $7.50? I'd say you did really well. Most impressive? Making the card yourself. THAT'S the kind of stuff that actually matters (well, to the girls that are worth your time anyways!) So don't sweat it Davie - you're on the right track and I am sure she will appreciate your thoughtfulness! And good luck in your new job!
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Old 02-13-2011, 04:15 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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Hope not. I'm painting a watercolor for BF with a poem on it. I got the watercolor board at Hobby Lobby for $4.00, and already had the watercolors and the calligraphy pens.
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Old 02-13-2011, 04:18 PM
 
Location: The moon
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That is the question.

Im in between jobs right now and was only able to spend about $7.50 on my gf for Valentines Day. I got her a box of chocolates and a dvd about Lady Gaga (I would rather give her that than flowers, because a DVD will last a lot longer, plus she LOVES Gaga)

I also took the time to make and print a card myself on the computer for her. I had done the same for Christmas as well, making her a card myself. I used paint so it looks somewhat primitive, but I really put out an effort for it.

What makes me feel bad is that she bought some prime rib steaks saying she wanted to have a nice Valentine's Day dinner. I plan on cooking it (anytime we have a meal where steak is involved, I'm the one who cooks it) But even though Im between jobs right now, I feel like it was a blow to my pride because I felt like I was the one who should have payed for not just the steaks, but the entire $80 she spent on the groceries even though right now I have no way to. I start a new job tomorrow but I wont see my first paycheck until the end of the month

Is it a rule that a guy MUST spend a lot of money on his girl for Valentine's Day? I have a part time job at Kmart (I say in between jobs because I lost a job I was doing when not at Kmart, Kmart gives me 8-12 hrs a week, not enough to survive on) I see male customers come to my store and spend $50+ easily on their wives or girlfriends for tomorrow, and I feel like a deadbeat because Im broke even though its through no fault of my own
I think my GF would kill me if I got her something expensive. In my opinion if she doesn't like your gift... than that's her problem. You did okay.
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Old 02-13-2011, 06:31 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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That is the question.

Im in between jobs right now and was only able to spend about $7.50 on my gf for Valentines Day. I got her a box of chocolates and a dvd about Lady Gaga (I would rather give her that than flowers, because a DVD will last a lot longer, plus she LOVES Gaga)

I also took the time to make and print a card myself on the computer for her. I had done the same for Christmas as well, making her a card myself. I used paint so it looks somewhat primitive, but I really put out an effort for it.

What makes me feel bad is that she bought some prime rib steaks saying she wanted to have a nice Valentine's Day dinner. I plan on cooking it (anytime we have a meal where steak is involved, I'm the one who cooks it) But even though Im between jobs right now, I feel like it was a blow to my pride because I felt like I was the one who should have payed for not just the steaks, but the entire $80 she spent on the groceries even though right now I have no way to. I start a new job tomorrow but I wont see my first paycheck until the end of the month

Is it a rule that a guy MUST spend a lot of money on his girl for Valentine's Day? I have a part time job at Kmart (I say in between jobs because I lost a job I was doing when not at Kmart, Kmart gives me 8-12 hrs a week, not enough to survive on) I see male customers come to my store and spend $50+ easily on their wives or girlfriends for tomorrow, and I feel like a deadbeat because Im broke even though its through no fault of my own
I think your girlfriend is lucky to have you!
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Old 02-13-2011, 06:36 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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I think you did alright considering your age and means.
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Old 02-13-2011, 06:43 PM
 
Location: Middle of the ocean
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I think in a lot of ways this Valentine's will show a lot about who you are too each other.

You have done something heartfelt and thoughtful, which is ALWAYS good. She should understand you are broke right now, and you are starting a job (so not always broke!!). She has the financial means so has contributed something to make the night enjoyable. That's the way good couples work.
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Old 02-13-2011, 06:46 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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That is the question.

Im in between jobs right now and was only able to spend about $7.50 on my gf for Valentines Day. I got her a box of chocolates and a dvd about Lady Gaga (I would rather give her that than flowers, because a DVD will last a lot longer, plus she LOVES Gaga)

I also took the time to make and print a card myself on the computer for her. I had done the same for Christmas as well, making her a card myself. I used paint so it looks somewhat primitive, but I really put out an effort for it.

What makes me feel bad is that she bought some prime rib steaks saying she wanted to have a nice Valentine's Day dinner. I plan on cooking it (anytime we have a meal where steak is involved, I'm the one who cooks it) But even though Im between jobs right now, I feel like it was a blow to my pride because I felt like I was the one who should have payed for not just the steaks, but the entire $80 she spent on the groceries even though right now I have no way to. I start a new job tomorrow but I wont see my first paycheck until the end of the month

Is it a rule that a guy MUST spend a lot of money on his girl for Valentine's Day? I have a part time job at Kmart (I say in between jobs because I lost a job I was doing when not at Kmart, Kmart gives me 8-12 hrs a week, not enough to survive on) I see male customers come to my store and spend $50+ easily on their wives or girlfriends for tomorrow, and I feel like a deadbeat because Im broke even though its through no fault of my own
Get out of your own head man, you are psyching yourself out and being your own worst enemy.

If your girl really loves you she understands you've done all you can afford to do - end of story. LET IT GO.
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Old 02-13-2011, 07:03 PM
 
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Make the note in your card something personal and you've hit a homerun!
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Old 02-13-2011, 07:16 PM
 
Location: Mammoth Lakes, CA
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Why does anyone feel compelled to spend more than a few bucks on Valentines day? Any woman demanding some expensive meal or gift is not a woman worth having. Buy your GF a card and include a handwritten, heartfelt letter. That is gold. An expensive hotel, meal of gift is all errant nonsense.
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