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Old 02-13-2011, 11:41 PM
 
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That's the story of my life and it has NOTHING to do with sex. Many people don't know how to take it. I say take it, this is really me......... or else! lol
best way to be!
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Old 02-14-2011, 06:04 AM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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Last post, then Ill shut my piehole: a lot of people dont realize that this was the original purpose of arranged marriages. The intent of arranged marriages was never to oppress women. People have well known for centuries that its not at all uncommon for young women have absolutely horrible judgment in men, which actually harms their respective society at large. Hence, it was conceived that the standards for approval would be the parent's standards, rather than the daughter's standards; because usually a parent's greater wisdom and insight allows his/her standards to be much higher than a young woman's. This benefits the society as a whole because it requires a much higher grade of man to get married (read: get sex)
While I agree that some parents have their daughters' best interest at heart when they arrange marriages, I wouldn't go so far as to say they were all (or mostly) like that, or that it has always been that way. In some societies, giving a daughter in marriage required a dowry, either to compensate her husband's family for the burden of keeping her, or to be the bride's money because she would potentially never have any of her own. So a daughter meant "money out," while a son meant "money in." The people of many cultures throughout time, if given a choice, would prefer to have sons to daughters. Within that mindset, I cannot believe that parents typically had their daughters' best interest at heart, especially in the poorer regions. In other societies, a daughter could fetch a brideprice, where she would be traded for animals or money or possessions. Again, I doubt the parents of many girls had their best interest at heart. A young woman could essentially be sold to the highest bidder, and nobody cared if he was old or cruel. A man did not necessarily have to be a good person, just a rich one.

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For instance, in another thread, some guys are over there bitching and barking about women dressing too manly nowdays. Well most women's response is something to the effect of "if I dont want to dress girly, Im not going to, deal with it.."...or "I dont want to wear frilly clothes, and if men dont like it too bad, go to hell"... and so forth.

Well, they say this because as women, they can afford to. Regardless of what women hang on their bodies, some guy will always sex them. However I guarantee you that men wouldnt be so cavalier if women wanted them to dress a certain way. As a man, you either get onboard and do what women like so you can get sexed, or you just go without. Its way too risky for a man to be a gender rebel. The slimmest percentile may luck upon a woman who will accept his eccentricities. But in general, the odds are highly against you; there just arent enough women who will put up with your stubbornness/defiance, when they could just go get sex from some guy who does have their sh*t together.
I generally agree with this, but I think our biological goal as a species is not just to have sex, but also to mate and successfully reproduce (i.e., produce children who are likely to also reproduce). Having sex is only a part of this goal, and "I know someone will always have sex with me" doesn't necessarily go the distance. (I am speaking about us as a species--I know individual people may have no interest in mating or having kids.)

I bring this up because the PUA phenomenon seems to have stemmed from increasing male frustration at female selection. "Women are choosing the wrong men," etc. But their goals don't seem to make sense: have sex with many women, never marry, never have children. Well, from a short-term perspective, I guess their goals do make some sense, because they just want to get laid. But long-term in their own lives--I don't think their are looking that far ahead, except to imagine themselves as Hugh Hefner's apprentice--and beyond their own lives, not at all.

What do you think?
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Old 02-14-2011, 11:01 AM
 
Location: Mile High City
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See here's the deal..Guys will talk shyt about a girl who they hear this info about her but then its ALL GOOD when they are hitting it..

I'm aggressive, confident and I have no problem saying or doing exactly what I want...Either you like it or you don't..
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Old 02-14-2011, 11:27 AM
 
Location: Emerald Coast, FL
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I love sexually confident women. I dated many, and married one. A sexually confident woman thoroughly enjoys sex, knows what she likes, is able to ask for what she likes or initiate, isn't hesitant to make her desires known (in the right setting), and doesn't need to be submissive or dominant. In my mind, there is a very clear distinction between a sexually confident woman, and those who are aggressive, loud, and lacking in class (edit: - in public). The latter would be a very poor match and while I don't think poorly of them, I do avoid them.

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Old 02-14-2011, 11:35 AM
 
Location: Where Dance Music comes first
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I love sexually confident women. I dated many, and married one. A sexually confident woman thoroughly enjoys sex, knows what she likes, is able to ask for what she likes or initiate, isn't hesitant to make her desires known (in the right setting), and doesn't need to be submissive or dominant. In my mind, there is a very clear distinction between a sexually confident woman, and those who are aggressive, loud, and lacking in class. The latter would be a very poor match and while I don't think poorly of them, I do avoid them.
I'm assuming lack in class means banging two and above different guys behind their backs. If that's the case, then it's a no go.

However, aggressive and loud are not unattractive imo, be it during sex or in a typical social setting.
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Old 02-14-2011, 11:37 AM
 
Location: Maryland
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Or they'll say something similar to this. Anything to keep a man from openly expressing his confidence in his performance. Could it have something to do with women wanting to keep a man who is good at sex, a secret? Sort of like keeping him to herself so that other women dont express interest....? Just a theory.
That's funny. I thought of this joke.

A woman went to her doctor. The doctor, after an examination, sighed and said, 'I've some bad news. You have Cancer, and you'd best put your affairs in order.'

The woman was shocked, but managed to compose herself and walk into the waiting room where her daughter had been waiting ......

'Well daughter, we women celebrate when things are good, and we celebrate when things don't go so well. In this case, things aren't well. I have Cancer.......Let's head to the club and have a martini.'

After 3 or 4 martinis, the two were feeling a little less somber. There were some laughs and more martinis.

They were eventually approached by some of the woman's old friends, who were curious as to what the two were celebrating.

The woman told her friends they were drinking to her impending end.

'I've been diagnosed with AIDS.'

The friends were aghast and gave the woman their condolences. After the friends left, the woman's daughter leaned over and whispered, 'Momma, I thought you said you were dying of Cancer, and you just told your friends you were dying of AIDS.'

The woman said,... 'I know ....... I just don't want any of those Bytches sleeping with your father after I'm gone.'
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Old 02-14-2011, 11:46 AM
 
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Every woman has a nasty, freaky, nympho side ... she just needs the right man to bring it out of her ..
So why would ANY man have a problem with that ..
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Old 02-14-2011, 12:28 PM
 
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Default Discretion is the better part of valor.

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Or they'll say something similar to this. Anything to keep a man from openly expressing his confidence in his performance. Could it have something to do with women wanting to keep a man who is good at sex, a secret? Sort of like keeping him to herself so that other women dont express interest....? Just a theory.

No. It has to do more with manners than anything else. Just as one does not brag about one's salary, bank account, sports achievements, or recognition for volunteer work, one should not brag about sexual expertise. It's just plain tacky and gauche, no matter which gender does it. It's far better to let someone else sing your praises, than to sing your own.

Also, I'm speaking from experience. Those who boast invariably fail to live up to their claims. It's pretty much false advertising.
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Old 02-14-2011, 12:53 PM
 
Location: colorado
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I am sure this has been done a million times but I’m going to make it a million and 1.

Guys, do you ever feel threatened by women who enjoy sex and aren’t afraid to say so?

Women who enjoy things such as pornography and/or erotica and aren’t afraid to talk about it?

I suppose “threatened” isn’t the word… maybe judgmental is more the word I am looking for.

Let me explain.

The other day I was telling someone (a guy) about a girlfriend of mine who never holds back. I love this about her, she isn’t afraid to say exactly what she wants and what’s on her mind. Somehow though, it never comes across in a trashy way. Explicit, but not trashy. I can also talk openly with her about what I like and want and she shows no judgment towards me. Very SATC I suppose – just 2 mature women discussing sex.

My friend told me he thinks she sounds like “a bit of a slut”. I was so angry and insulted by his judgment of her. How dare he call her such an ugly name when he likes exactly the same things she does?


Most men like women who are confident in bed,
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Old 02-14-2011, 01:21 PM
 
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See here's the deal..Guys will talk shyt about a girl who they hear this info about her but then its ALL GOOD when they are hitting it..

I'm aggressive, confident and I have no problem saying or doing exactly what I want...Either you like it or you don't..

Exactly why you are one of my most favorite and respected posters Himain
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