Does the shallowness within men decline with age? (dating, girl, love)
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I'm not shallow at all. I really am not. If a man is nice to me, I'll be nice to them-regardless of how they look. If they had no nose and teeth, I'd still talk to them. I might not necessarily find them physically attractive but I will treat them the same as someone who I do find physically attractive.
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Originally Posted by ChessieMom
Yes, you are whining. As far as shallowness, that is spread around pretty well, in both men AND women. But it's neither fair nor correct to paint everyone with the same brush.
Cheese sounds delicious. I'm not whining. Isn't this a forum? Where we state or opinions? Men are shallow. It's not about being physically attractive, it's about knowing how to respect women, even those who don't physically appeal to you. .
Oh, you hit the nail on the head.
When I moved into my house, my very unattractive male neighbor delighted in telling me that he let the previous owner suffer in a storm - that he and the other neighbors basically just laughed at her as she lost everything (she had asked them to help her put sandbags out and no one would help her).
He thought it was quite hilarious. I never forgot that.
I think that most PEOPLE are on the shallow side. Most cannot hold a decent conversation - it's all surface-y. "How's the weather?" "Blah blah sports team, blah, blah."
I think that most PEOPLE are on the shallow side. Most cannot hold a decent conversation - it's all surface-y. "How's the weather?" "Blah blah sports team, blah, blah."
the majority of conversation is small-talk... I'm not gonna have a political or philosophical debate with someone I've just met.
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I think that most PEOPLE are on the shallow side. Most cannot hold a decent conversation - it's all surface-y. "How's the weather?" "Blah blah sports team, blah, blah."
Are you talking about "fake-ness"? I don't think that's being shallow, I think it's trying to keep conversations safe and general. It's better than not saying anything at all.
It's just a discussion I don't think she's really "whining" that much about it, just debating something.
I will say that guys in general are more "shallow." Men are more concerned with looks than women. I see good looking women with average or below men, but I don't see many successful men with average or below women.
I bet that the guy who does come help you with your car might be less shallow, but it's just as likely that he finds you attractive more so than the other woman.
Are you talking about "fake-ness"? I don't think that's being shallow, I think it's trying to keep conversations safe and general. It's better than not saying anything at all.
I guess it's a combination of shallowness and fakeness - shallowness that most people are not deep thinkers - are mostly materialistic and literal thinkers, evidently and then there is the fake factor - pretending that everything is always hunky-dory and glossing over whatever is really going on.
I have a friend who says he is "amazing" when asked how he is . . . the hype factor is also an issue with some people.
It would be refreshing if you were standing in a long line for coffee, for instance, and the person ahead of you or behind you engaged you in actual conversation . . .if it could be somewhat meaningful. Don't ask me how to do this because I have not a clue, having learned that fakeness is REQUIRED in America.
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It's just a discussion I don't think she's really "whining" that much about it, just debating something.
I will say that guys in general are more "shallow." Men are more concerned with looks than women. I see good looking women with average or below men, but I don't see many successful men with average or below women.
I bet that the guy who does come help you with your car might be less shallow, but it's just as likely that he finds you attractive more so than the other woman.
I respect that.
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