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Old 02-28-2011, 08:17 AM
 
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Do women draw a specific distinction between feelings of romantic non-physical and physical love, for their boyfriends/husbands? If so, how exactly is this dilineated? For example, when are they more likely to have tender emotional feelings for affection and care for their partner, and when just the physical feelings alone?

Or is it all lumped into a single, combined romantic physical and non-physical feeling?
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Old 02-28-2011, 08:19 AM
 
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Knight, you can't figure everything out before you go there. You're gonna have to accept the fact, that in order for you to understand love, you're gonna have to fall into it first. Why do you keep asking these crazy questions?
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Old 02-28-2011, 08:27 AM
 
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I don't understand what you mean by "romantic non-physical love."
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Old 02-28-2011, 08:29 AM
 
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I don't understand what you mean by "romantic non-physical love."
Sorry, I should have clarified earlier -- by that I mean feelings of romantic affection and love, but that aren't inherently "physical" in nature.

ETA: As a guy, I can consciously separate the physical from the non-physical attraction I have for someone that I like romantically. I just wasn't sure how this process works though for the female gender.
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Old 02-28-2011, 08:32 AM
 
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Is it about "just cuddling" and talking versus wanting "more?"
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Old 02-28-2011, 08:37 AM
 
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Sorry, I should have clarified earlier -- by that I mean feelings of romantic affection and love, but that aren't inherently "physical" in nature.

ETA: As a guy, I can consciously separate the physical from the non-physical attraction I have for someone that I like romantically. I just wasn't sure how this process works though for the female gender.
Hmm, I don't know, then. I can separate feelings of desire (lust) from affection and tenderness (love), but I don't foster affectionate, tender feelings for anyone but my husband--at least not of the same type. My love for my children, parents, friends, fellow man, etc., are different. I wouldn't have romantic feelings for someone I wasn't attracted to. Romance involves physical attraction, in my opinion. I love my mother and have fondness and affection for her, but my feelings are not romantic. Romance moves toward a goal of physical culmination.
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Old 02-28-2011, 08:38 AM
 
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Sorry, I should have clarified earlier -- by that I mean feelings of romantic affection and love, but that aren't inherently "physical" in nature.

ETA: As a guy, I can consciously separate the physical from the non-physical attraction I have for someone that I like romantically. I just wasn't sure how this process works though for the female gender.
The process "works" differently for everyone. You shouldn't assume that all women process ANYTHING the same way.

That said, I don't think I ever have had feelings that I would call "physical love". I love. Or I don't. I don't just love someone physically...or romantically. It's all or nuthin. Physical attraction? Yeah, of course. But physical LOVE? I don't get it.
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Old 02-28-2011, 08:41 AM
 
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Is it about "just cuddling" and talking versus wanting "more?"
Yes, cuddling (in a PG-rated manner, lol) could be one example of non-physical love. Also talking, as in using affectionate words, saying "ILY", etc. And behaving in a "loving" and caring manner; being gentle and kind to one's partner. All of which seem to be inheretly different, than physical love alone per se.

Again the purpose of this post, was to see how ladies distinguish between one form of love for their romantic partner, and the other. For example, is it something that occurs consciously to them? Unconsciously? Or no real distinction for them, between the two forms of love?
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Old 02-28-2011, 08:43 AM
 
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Yes, cuddling (in a PG-rated manner, lol) could be one example of non-physical love. Also talking, as in using affectionate words, saying "ILY", etc. And behaving in a "loving" and caring manner; being gentle and kind to one's partner. All of which seem to be inheretly different, than physical love per se.

Again the purpose of this post, was to see how ladies distinguish between one form of love for their romantic partner, and the other. For example, is it something that occurs consciously to them? Unconsciously? Or no real distinction for them, between the two forms of love?
I have never heard anyone speak of "two forms of love", for their partner. Where do you get this from?
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Old 02-28-2011, 08:47 AM
 
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Hmm, I don't know, then. I can separate feelings of desire (lust) from affection and tenderness (love), but I don't foster affectionate, tender feelings for anyone but my husband--at least not of the same type. My love for my children, parents, friends, fellow man, etc., are different. I wouldn't have romantic feelings for someone I wasn't attracted to. Romance involves physical attraction, in my opinion. I love my mother and have fondness and affection for her, but my feelings are not romantic. Romance moves toward a goal of physical culmination.
Thanks for sharing...interesting...
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