Tall women, would you date or marry a short man? (attractiveness, straight)

[1208]

Why is wearing heels such a big deal to women? It seems like lots of women would rather be able to wear heals than like, date a certain dude or not get made fun of for their height or something. I don't get it.

[Huckleberry3911948]

if a woman is already uncomfortable about her tall stature standing there with a shorty is not guna help.

[JetJockey]

Originally Posted by 1208

Why is wearing heels such a big deal to women? It seems like lots of women would rather be able to wear heals than like, date a certain dude or not get made fun of for their height or something. I don't get it.

Well, women are constantly bombarded with pictures and videos of short(ish) women wearing tall heels who look svelte and feminine. If you're 6' or taller, generally you're not going to look all that feminine wearing heels unless you're extremely thin.

I go back and forth in my feelings. I LOVE wearing heels and get made fun of for my height all the time. I'm not going to stop wearing heels because I enjoy wearing them, regardless of what other people think or say. On the other hand, sometimes I'll see pictures when I'm wearing 5" heels and it looks horrible and I look HUGE. For women, looking huge is not a good thing. We're supposed to be cute, small and feminine. I will never really be any of those things, so I'm slowly getting more and more confident in working with what I have.

I would gladly give up a lifetime of wearing heels to be with a man who loves me. No questions asked.

[1208]

I wasn't picking on you in particular, plenty of short women are just as militant about heels. I don't see why anyone would let that get in the way of who they date, but it seems like it does. "Yeah but if I date him I will be taller than him if I am wearing heels, it's not gonna work out."

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by JetJockey

Well, women are constantly bombarded with pictures and videos of short(ish) women wearing tall heels who look svelte and feminine. If you're 6' or taller, generally you're not going to look all that feminine wearing heels unless you're extremely thin.

I go back and forth in my feelings. I LOVE wearing heels and get made fun of for my height all the time. I'm not going to stop wearing heels because I enjoy wearing them, regardless of what other people think or say. On the other hand, sometimes I'll see pictures when I'm wearing 5" heels and it looks horrible and I look HUGE. For women, looking huge is not a good thing. We're supposed to be cute, small and feminine. I will never really be any of those things, so I'm slowly getting more and more confident in working with what I have.

I would gladly give up a lifetime of wearing heels to be with a man who loves me. No questions asked.

Who are these people that make fun of you? You've posted about this a lot in this forum.

Are they friends of yours?? I hope so, I hate to think random people on the street are treating you like some circus act.

[Doll Eyes]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

Who are these people that make fun of you? You've posted about this a lot in this forum.

Are they friends of yours?? I hope so, I hate to think random people on the street are treating you like some circus act.

it is mostly the males that do this. have no problem saying rude things to women they dont even know instead of going on about their buisness.

[JetJockey]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

Who are these people that make fun of you? You've posted about this a lot in this forum.

Are they friends of yours?? I hope so, I hate to think random people on the street are treating you like some circus act.

Sure, my friends make fun of me, but I know it's in good humor for the most part.

Most of the time it's complete strangers. I've completely lost count of how many times I've watched groups of men point and laugh at me, make rude or lewd gestures at me and hit on me as a joke. I have trust issues I'm trying to work through because of it.

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by JetJockey

Sure, my friends make fun of me, but I know it's in good humor for the most part.

Most of the time it's complete strangers. I've completely lost count of how many times I've watched groups of men point and laugh at me, make rude or lewd gestures at me and hit on me as a joke. I have trust issues I'm trying to work through because of it.

Well if your friends are goofing on you, I'm sure its good natured, but random people pointing and stuff like that. That is just BAD manners.

I don't like bad manners at all.

I need to head over to the pet peeves thread and make an entry regarding bad manners....

[tonym9428]

Originally Posted by Gatsby1925

I am 5'6". I used to be worried about my height, but not anymore. The way I see it, I can walk, both my arms work, I can see and I can hear. There are people out there with true disabilities, and I personally feel like I would be disrespecting them if I were to whine about something as trivial as my height.

Best post in this thread!

I'm short as well (5"4), but I also have a neurological disorder which makes walking proper a challenge. I still have use of my legs and walk everywhere, albeit with a noticeable limp and some pain. But there's so much more things to be worried about in life than height, looks, etc. and you should be thankful that you have functioning legs.

[Mightyqueen801]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

Who are these people that make fun of you? You've posted about this a lot in this forum.

Are they friends of yours?? I hope so, I hate to think random people on the street are treating you like some circus act.

Chiming in here at six foot one-half in tall. People do make fun of tall women and say things to them that are thoughtless and rude. All the time. I am 53 years old, and I am not some delicate flower whose feelings are easily hurt anymore, but I was this tall at 14 so you can imagine how much fun THAT was. Even TEACHERS mocked me for my height. You grow a thick skin, but it's still annoying.

Just this past Friday, I get on the NYC subway, No. 4 train, step inside, and this guy looks me up and down and says, "You play basketball?"

SO VERY ORIGINAL, and usually my answer to that one is, "No, are you a jockey?" But I wasn't in the mood, so I just turned my back to him and ignored him--always the best choice on the NY subway system anyway.