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I'm 46, she's 50...once so far this year...sad, so very sad!
Update...we're up to three times this year! I'm seriously considering leaving her...or having an affair...or both! I could understand and be more compassionate if she acted as if she gave a crap! She doesn't though. This marriage has digressed into the friendship style relationship we had before dating 11 years ago.
Update...we're up to three times this year! I'm seriously considering leaving her...or having an affair...or both! I could understand and be more compassionate if she acted as if she gave a crap! She doesn't though. This marriage has digressed into the friendship style relationship we had before dating 11 years ago.
Have you had some serious conversation with her about this?? Don't give up without a fight!
Have you had some serious conversation with her about this?? Don't give up without a fight!
Tried too...always ends up in a fight! I know it's hormonal...she had a hysterecomy 20+ years ago and have been on syn hormones since. Her Dr reduced the mg and ever since...sexual nose dive! I understand all that and have been extremly supportive I think...she refuses to bring the topic up w/ her Dr. She sincerly doesn't seem to care! I'm afraid I'm holding on to something that isn't there anymore! Guess I wanted it to work more than she...hate the thought of being 0 for two, but don't see anything changing anytime soon.
Tried too...always ends up in a fight! I know it's hormonal...she had a hysterecomy 20+ years ago and have been on syn hormones since. Her Dr reduced the mg and ever since...sexual nose dive! I understand all that and have been extremly supportive I think...she refuses to bring the topic up w/ her Dr. She sincerly doesn't seem to care! I'm afraid I'm holding on to something that isn't there anymore! Guess I wanted it to work more than she...hate the thought of being 0 for two, but don't see anything changing anytime soon.
That's so sad
Is there ANYONE she really respects who could talk to her and explain to her how wrong it is to do this to you? It's one thing to have a medical condition you can't help, it's a whole other to just not care and refuse to seek any help for something that might be able to be overcome.
My husband never had what I would call a high sex drive but when we were first married it was a couple times a week. Over the years, and a couple kids later, it was a couple times a month. As we approached middle age it because a couple times per year. Now we are getting divorced but not over sex. The slow down was a result of other issues.
Is there ANYONE she really respects who could talk to her and explain to her how wrong it is to do this to you? It's one thing to have a medical condition you can't help, it's a whole other to just not care and refuse to seek any help for something that might be able to be overcome.
Her older sister...maybe. Unfortunately, she's from the old school and sex is one of those topics that isn't talked about openly. Additionally, from what I can tell, it's the same at her house...but mutally agreeable! Maybe this is how my wife thinks things are supposed to be???
Her older sister...maybe. Unfortunately, she's from the old school and sex is one of those topics that isn't talked about openly. Additionally, from what I can tell, it's the same at her house...but mutally agreeable! Maybe this is how my wife thinks things are supposed to be???
I'd do my best to get her into a marriage counselor with you so that these issues could be be hashed out. If she simply will not participate that would be grounds for leaving in my book, and be sure to tell her this is your line in the sand. Good luck with all this.
I'd do my best to get her into a marriage counselor with you so that these issues could be be hashed out. If she simply will not participate that would be grounds for leaving in my book, and be sure to tell her this is your line in the sand. Good luck with all this.
Thanks...gotta feeling I'm gonna need it!
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