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If you don't want to offend, please don't say the above bolded to the guy. Once you find out where he is planning on taking you, if you don't like it simply ask if he'd be willing to try (insert name) restaurant. Tell him you really like their food and think he would enjoy it also. If he is willing to make the compromise to take you somewhere a bit more costly, the least you can do is offer to pay, go dutch or chip in towards the bill.
Also, keep in mind "cheap" is relative when it comes to the amount someone is willing to pay for food. Hope you have fun!
Thank you... finally someone got my question.
Many people would have posted I should stop complaining or just smile but why? If I don't want something, I'm not obligated to have it.
Are you saying you, yourself, are rude? You said you eat very little.
Not when it comes to foods I like. I hate pizza or red spaghetti... can't stand the smell of it so those are the worst plates someone can surprise me with but I he would have known this in advance.
Yes but it does hurts when the left-over have to then be thrown into the garbage. Ouch....
I understand it hurts. But it was a gift. It is not yours. It's theirs now. They get to do what they want with it. Otherwise you're not really *giving* them anything.
If a guy asks you out, he will want to please you. But this date is not all about *you*. So if he asks you where you want to go, you can suggest one of your 'clean' 'decent' places. If he wants to make the plan for you, then go along and be a good sport. You're dating him to see what kind of a relationship you can build, not to find some kind of food source.
If someone does not like like food X, X being mexican, italian, el cheapo diner action, whatever, just say it and be done with it. If I ask you to dinner its because I want to enjoy your company over dinner and obviously something that we both like. If I find out later you didnt like food X I will wonder why you could not be honest and simply say that. Do you lack integrity, a gamer, just plain cross eyed mean? On the other hand if you tell me up front that your good with foods A,B, and C but not X no problem, Im sure somewhere amongst A, B, and C we can find common ground.
Of course when I ask you I will say something along the lines of, "Do you like steak? I was thinking of trying the new steak place down on anywhere street." This gives you a chance to gracefully suggest something else if your of a mind and me to read your reaction. For instance if it appears like your going to vomit at the steak suggestion I will offer up another alternative. Men are supposed to know this as its bad manners to put someone on the spot where they feel trapped into something they may not want to do. Not all do.
A good way out when the man failed to carry his end of the log by offering alternatives is to say something along the lines of "Why yes, I would love to go have dinner with you. My girlfriends were talking about this place down on anywhere street that has seafood to die for....." Unless he is an utter dolt he should be able to take the hint and you are both off the hook.
This. The terrific benefit of asking someone out is that you get to pick the place.
If you have allergies or special dietary needs (like kosher or vegetarian), I think it's OK to say, "I'd love to go, but I'm vegetarian. Is that OK?" Not wanting "cheap, crappy food" is not the same thing. There's no polite way to say, "Ew, gross." So to avoid that problem, do the asking yourself.
Who takes someone to a crappy place for their first date?
Most of the people who frequent Plenty Of F**h ( POF )....
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