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Why should she change? Why don't YOU change and accept her as she is? You're the one with the problem of who and what she is.
Whether the object of the OP's post was a female, or flipping the script, a male with the same laundry list of 'yikes!!'-inducing traits, my advice would be the same...
To wit: the only changing YOU (the OP) need to do is into a reserve pair of sneakers as you run the Sam Hill AWAY from that person, with all due haste...
Come on---after reading the OP, all you get from his post is Why should she change?...'accept her as she is, and YOU change?' Uht to the uh-uh...nope...are you kidding me? I would think that he should have better things to do with his time than waste it trying to adjust to dealing with ol' 'Toxic Tina' (or once again flipping, 'Toxic Timmy')...he should (now this is just MY take) instead, focus his energies on finding someone a bit more compatible with him, rather than expend a lot of energy adjusting to that heart-attack causing list of 'no-no's'...
And I turn the question around---why does HE have a problem with who and what she is? Hell, any man (or woman) with a functioning brain would and should have a problem with a potential nightmare like that
Ha! Im very very familiar with this type of girl.
The ONLY way you can lock her down is to be super SUPER confident in yourself. You have to know your her best (in bed, from day-to-day). A women like this needs a man who treats her as expendable. She's going to mess with you horribly if you show even a hint of vulnerability.
That's what I'm thinking. You couldn't show any hint of jealousy when she flirts with other guys. You'd also have to have a stable rotation of women in order to keep her competitive juices flowing. So what would be the type of guy who would absolutely be able to get her to fall in love with him? Would he at any point in the relationship be able to let his guard down and just "be himself"?
You can't change her. Why do people think they can change someone? She's not going to change for a man. In fact, if you got this woman to fall in love with you, during that initial stage where you are obsessed with each other, she'd might straighten up for a couple of months. But as soon as that new love buzz wore off, she'd be her old self again. Thats assuming by some miracle she got emotionally attached, which I don't think would happen because she knows how to keep herself from getting attached. Don't be naive, you can't change this girl. If you decide to get involved with her, I'd bet the house that she'd eat you up and spit you out.
I'm not trying to change her. I want to know what I can do to become the type of man that could lock her down. Would I need to cheat on her? Keep other women on the side? Be a party boy? I don't think the "nice guy" routine would cut it.
But, on the other hand, do you think a woman like this could function well in a "drama free" relationship?
I'm not trying to change her. I want to know what I can do to become the type of man that could lock her down. Would I need to cheat on her? Keep other women on the side? Be a party boy? I don't think the "nice guy" routine would cut it.
But, on the other hand, do you think a woman like this would get bored in a "drama free" relationship?
Why would you want to enter a relationship under all those premises, that is crazy? Wow, I think you are very controlling individual.
Why would you want to enter a relationship under all those premises, that is crazy? Wow, I think you are very controlling individual.
Weird.
It's the challenge. I know a guy who was able to lock her down before...at least for a little while. It seems that what all of her exes have in common is that they all had a lot of women in the picture. She once told me that her ex "could have had any girl he wanted, but he chose me."
Besides, with enough game, you could get a girl like that to fall for you, and then change up and be yourself. The particular girl in mind has a lot of great qualities that outweigh all of the other stuff I described. Plus, she's biiiiuuutiful!
I'm not trying to change her. I want to know what I can do to become the type of man that could lock her down. Would I need to cheat on her? Keep other women on the side? Be a party boy? I don't think the "nice guy" routine would cut it.
But, on the other hand, do you think a woman like this could function well in a "drama free" relationship?
LOL @ "drama free". Controlling another person is not my definition of "drama free". She may go Lorena Bobbit on you.
Are you into an alternative lifestyle or something. The only people I hear talking about taming another person are in Dom/Sub relationships.
You don't get a girl to be anything!
She is her own person. Accept her as is or walk away.
She is not an animal for you to "tame".
I just need to figure out how to get this type of chick. Really, what do I need to do?
I want her to a) stop flirting with other guys, b) get emotionally bonded to me, and c) resist the advances of encroaching men. How can I get her to the point where I'm all she thinks about? And then once I get her there, how do I position myself to later express my love for her form a relationship with her? And then how do I keep the relationship exciting enough where she doesn't get bored and want out?
TAME her? Are you an animal trainer? A woman is not an animal to be tamed. Find someone you like that you don't feel the need to change or play games with.
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