Broken Girlfriend code??

[purehuman]

I can't understand when you say it's a trust issue for you!! What issue?? No one should have to ask for your blessings or your permission to go out with a single man....You've had your chance, ...If there weren't "unwritten codes, rules" that must be adheared to , to be your friend, your friends would probably have told you about it..Real friends can talk about anything, and not feel threatened or fearfull that they might expose something the other will get upset about....which is exactly what you did.

[jeepgirl27]

Originally Posted by round4

Ladies, is it not an unwritten code that you just don't date a girlfriends ex-husband/boyfriend? This has happened to me, someone I thought was a really good friend, started dating this guy behind my back, then fessed up, well, evidently she knew it was wrong or she wouldn't have hidden it, right?

And come to find out, my other so called best friend set them up!!! I am feeling mighty betrayed this morning..not because of the guy, I sent him on his way and I am very involved with someone really special...

Not to mention they both were around when he lied and cheated on me.... am I wrong to feel betrayed? I've told them both to leave me alone, have a nice life, my two best friends, I thought in the world, now gone....

But they have wiped out the trust, and without trust, in my opinion, you have nothing anway...

I dated my exhusbands bestfriend..my kids loved him, I knew my ex's bestfriend before I knew my ex.

[Childfree35]

It is an unwritten rule, but understandable she dates him. Should she have told you...maybe.

Don't worry about them. Hey, do you want him. If not, then press on.

[paladinking]

yes, trust is the most important !! that is so great !!

[sun queen]

There are somethings u just shouldn't do, but has been done since the fall of man. I wouldn't want some guy have the pleasure of being able to compare me to my friend, but be ware: "scanks bang" it's what they do and a guy aint likely to turn it down.

[LS Jaun]

Originally Posted by round4

Ladies, is it not an unwritten code that you just don't date a girlfriends ex-husband/boyfriend? This has happened to me, someone I thought was a really good friend, started dating this guy behind my back, then fessed up, well, evidently she knew it was wrong or she wouldn't have hidden it, right?

And come to find out, my other so called best friend set them up!!! I am feeling mighty betrayed this morning..not because of the guy, I sent him on his way and I am very involved with someone really special...

Not to mention they both were around when he lied and cheated on me.... am I wrong to feel betrayed? I've told them both to leave me alone, have a nice life, my two best friends, I thought in the world, now gone....

But they have wiped out the trust, and without trust, in my opinion, you have nothing anway...

You no longer had any claim to him so why do you care. You don't even like him. If your friends like him like him, he may have more to offer then you gave him credit for. Live and let live.

[Sonata36]

Originally Posted by LS Jaun

You no longer had any claim to him so why do you care. You don't even like him. If your friends like him like him, he may have more to offer then you gave him credit for. Live and let live.

Exactly. You don't own anyone. Were you such a control freak during the relationship, too? Maybe that's why it didn't work out for you.

[LS Jaun]

If you live in a small town this is very prevalent. I lived in a small community and you couldnt help but to date your friends exes.

[round4]

Originally Posted by Sonata36

Exactly. You don't own anyone. Were you such a control freak during the relationship, too? Maybe that's why it didn't work out for you.

yea, like you know me. Whatever. Not a small town, and it's a trust issue with the friend, nothing with the guy for crying out loud.

Beside, It's resovlved, check the date on threads.