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With her personal trainer? I am aquaintances with the trainer, and I feel bad for my friend Josh. He is married to a yenta. Josh and I are like brothers, we have been friends since childhood. This will devastate him if he finds out and quite frankly I dont know if I have the heart to tell him! I can always ignore it, and even though there is a high probability he would never know that i know.. my conscience wont allow me to not say anything for somebody Ive been friends with since i was younger! I told him not to marry this whiny, money hungry , materialistic tramp...damn! Have you ever been in a situation like this?
I've never been in this position and hope I never am. BUT if it was me, I would have to tell him. I would want my friend to tell me if my husband/bf was cheating on me.
When I was 15 my dad and I were out car shopping when I we found our neighbor with another woman. I babysat their kids and we did things with them all the time. Thankfully I didn't have to get too involved with the situation, but my parents agreed that the best route of action was to let him know that they saw him first and ask him to please tell his wife what he was doing.
If he hadn't told her then they were going to let her know, but luckily he did the right thing. Personally, I think it's a good idea. Let her know first that you know what's going on and ask her to please be honest with your friend.
Of course... if she doesn't like you and you ask her she may be able to use the fact that you know against you... so nevermind then. In that case I'd tell him, but I'd make sure I had some kind of proof when I did (a photo or the guy admitting to it or something) so that he doesn't accuse you of lying.
With her personal trainer? I am aquaintances with the trainer, and I feel bad for my friend Josh. He is married to a yenta. Josh and I are like brothers, we have been friends since childhood. This will devastate him if he finds out and quite frankly I dont know if I have the heart to tell him! I can always ignore it, and even though there is a high probability he would never know that i know.. my conscience wont allow me to not say anything for somebody Ive been friends with since i was younger! I told him not to marry this whiny, money hungry , materialistic tramp...damn! Have you ever been in a situation like this?
Friends since childhood is like family. You know him well enough to tell him directly, or if you're uneasy about it covertly set something up so it will be like him discovering it or, tell his wife that you will tell Josh if she doesn't break up with him.
Whatever you decide to do, get positive, believable proof first. Without undeniable proof, you have nothing, and with nothing it will ruin your friendship, it may ruin your friendship even with proof. Good luck!
With her personal trainer? I am aquaintances with the trainer, and I feel bad for my friend Josh. He is married to a yenta. Josh and I are like brothers, we have been friends since childhood. This will devastate him if he finds out and quite frankly I dont know if I have the heart to tell him! I can always ignore it, and even though there is a high probability he would never know that i know.. my conscience wont allow me to not say anything for somebody Ive been friends with since i was younger! I told him not to marry this whiny, money hungry , materialistic tramp...damn! Have you ever been in a situation like this?
In a situation like this you have to be DAMN sure of your facts. Do not repeat this info if it is just gossip or hearsay or if you have no real firsthand knowledge of the supposed cheating. Keep in mind, the personal trainer dude could be lying and exaggerating to boost his rep or something.
But if you are sure of this, since you are like brothers I think you have an obligation to him to tell him, but gently and without all the gory details.
Just tell him, I love you man and I've always got your back so I just have to say I have some concern your wife is doing some stuff behind your back that you might want to get to the bottom off.
Then leave it to him to pursue it or not. He may actually prefer to not know the truth, but at least you haven't betrayed him too by hiding it from him.
sounds like the plot for the movie 'Dillemna' with Vince Vaughn
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