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Old 03-12-2011, 07:40 PM
 
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wants to have sex, there is always an excuse, he is tired or we have been arguing or something else. I can not take it anymore, I have given him full access and he never wants any. Who cares if we argue, I'll do it after that no problem.
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Old 03-12-2011, 07:49 PM
 
Location: North Beach, MD on the Chesapeake
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How old?
Is this new or has he always had a low libido?
New or different meds (blood pressure, heart, diabetes)?
Change in habits (working late)?
New or increased stressors?
Have you changed something (weight, hygiene, grooming habits)?


I tried really, really hard to not be snarky.
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Old 03-12-2011, 07:49 PM
 
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I think you have bigger problems then just sex. Aren't you the one that her husband is paranoid? First you have to deal with that issue before dealing with minor things like him not wanting sex.
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Old 03-12-2011, 07:51 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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wants to have sex, there is always an excuse, he is tired or we have been arguing or something else. I can not take it anymore, I have given him full access and he never wants any. Who cares if we argue, I'll do it after that no problem.
A man turning down sex is a huge red flag.

It can signal a physical problem, an emotional problem or an infidelity problem.

You know him, we don't. Which arena is his problem most likely to be in?

You either need to call a doctor or a therapist first thing Monday morning.
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Old 03-12-2011, 07:54 PM
 
Location: earth?
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Is he an alcoholic? Is he passive-aggressive? What do you think his problem is?
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Old 03-12-2011, 08:08 PM
 
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He is passive-aggresives, no meds, no alcohol, low libido for a long time. He had a complete physical with testosterone levels, two months ago. He is 46. I have not gained weight, bath daily, brush teeth regular and even use deoderant. I have become a very high libido person lately, thanks to HRT, and want it every which way, often. I have become interested in viewing internet entertainment, to fill my need. I sit on the couch with my laptop in the evening, while watching tv, I can watch my fun stuff.
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Old 03-12-2011, 08:23 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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wants to have sex, there is always an excuse, he is tired or we have been arguing or something else. I can not take it anymore, I have given him full access and he never wants any. Who cares if we argue, I'll do it after that no problem.
Do you think he would change his tune if you said,"Hey baby!!!! Lets look at some porn together.
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Old 03-12-2011, 08:27 PM
 
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He doesn't like porn, can you believe that? Every time I try to watch it with him, he giggles or acts like its weird. I love it, really, I could watch it everyday. Go figure. Backwards, huh?
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Old 03-12-2011, 08:28 PM
 
Location: Jacksonville, Fl
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I have the opposite problem, sorta ... I still have the same raging hormones I had as a teenager (I'm 50+), but with my wife's health problems, sex is rare ... drives me crazy, but there is no solution
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Old 03-12-2011, 08:30 PM
 
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I have the opposite problem, sorta ... I still have the same raging hormones I had as a teenager (I'm 50+), but with my wife's health problems, sex is rare ... drives me crazy, but there is no solution
Really? Where do you live? JK.
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