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This is my pic for those who missed it. I sometimes think that my race is holding me back at times
Hmmm..I thought you were ugly. You're not bad looking at all..I dont think Id call you ugly.. You're just plain. You look a little overweight too. Men probably overlook you because you are plain. Contacts, a more interesting hair cut and a little less weight would probably give you a bit more pizzazz. (or however you spell it.) As far as men calling you ugly, youve got to know when people are playing on your insecurities. Your lack of self assuredness is readily apparent and if you are in the wrong company, they will prey on that.
You say you have a personality, but I can tell by that stoic (almost statuesque) pic, that you likely dont have a personality at all, or you have one that flies under the radar, which you might try to pass off as a "great personality". Nowdays, just being nice and forgettable doesnt cut it. As you probably know, people like instant gratification. They dont like having to sit around and figure out whats interesting about you. You need to have a personality and a sense of self expression that immediately shows people you're interesting and attention worthy. Judging by that pic, you dont seem to have that trait of outward self expression.
Any suggestions on what I can do to approve my look? Anyone? Looking for a mans opinion only, no lesbians
I'm not sure if I qualify because, if I were a woman, I'd be a lesbian...but here goes:
Just get yourself in the best physical shape you can; not to be attractive per se, but because you'll have tons more energy and strength that you'll really feel good. A natural side effect is that you'll also look better and clothes will fit better. Treat others the way you'd like to be treated and you'll do fine.
Hmmm..I thought you were ugly. You're not bad looking at all..I dont think Id call you ugly.. You're just plain. You look a little overweight too. Men probably overlook you because you are plain. Contacts, a more interesting hair cut and a little less weight would probably give you a bit more pizzazz. (or however you spell it.)
You say you have a personality, but I can tell by that stoic (almost statuesque) pic, that you likely dont have a personality at all, or you have one that fly's under the radar, which you might try to pass off as a "great personality". Nowdays, just being nice and forgettable doesnt cut it. As you probably know, people like instant gratification. They dont like having to sit around and figure out whats interesting about you. You need to have a personality and a sense of self expression that immediately shows people you're interesting and attention worthy. Judging by that pic, you dont seem to have that trait of outward self expression.
I agree with this guy. I personally think that your weight is the first problem. A lot of people tend to overlook weight as an issue but it takes commitment to lose weight and stay in shape and that is something you have to do these days which will highly give you an edge in the dating pool. Also you do seem a bit too ordinary, it might sound kind of weird but you need some sort of style even if it might seem kind of gimmicky. Girls nowadays are accessory crazy and for some reason certain styles of clothing display confidence. Try to get a feel for other women's styles the ones that seem trendy and work from there.
Also, realize: developing a personality and becoming outgoing/expressive, is about taking risks. You're going to have to come out of your comfort zone if you want anyone to notice you. You're going to have to come out of the monotone, all black outfits. Men like color on women, it makes them look youthful and vibrant. Become bold. Take fashion risks, and find out what your individual "style" is, and as others have said, be receptive and outgoing.
Thanks everyone I will try my best to change my appearance
IMHO, you don't need to change much. A more flattering hairdo, a smile on your face, a sparkle in your eyes, a spring in your step (read: confidence), and you should get the attention you're looking for.
There is no supply and demand in the way that businesses think about it because even if somebody is married/taken many are still actively on the market.
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