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First off, both me and my boyfriend of 3 months are Christians. Neither of us want to have sex before we get married. This is a first relationship for both of us, and it is getting fairly serious. We both know what we want and who we are, and we are ready for more commitment than most people would be at our age (23, 24). I'm happy in the relationship and I think things are going great.
My question is about his response to physical contact. I can tell he is attracted to me as his kisses are passionate and he touches me (face, arms, safe stuff like that) very tenderly. However, after a couple minutes of really great (french) kissing he just pulls away, kisses me on the forehead or the side of my face, and leaves. (We never get around to kissing until the end of our dates, even though I would be happy to kiss from the beginning ) I don't understand why he pulls back. I had two thoughts: 1) he genuinely doesn't want to go too far physically or give away too much of himself early on (we're both very committed to waiting) or 2) he's starting to get an erection and he doesn't want me to know. (Or 3), he's not attracted to me, but he's so passionate, tender, and generous that that is difficult for me to believe.)
What can I do to get him to kiss me more? Should I not press up against him when we kiss? Is the fact that he knows how much I enjoy kissing him making it more difficult for him to contain himself, and causing him to stop before I'd like him to? Maybe I'm just so ignorant of male sexuality that I'm making this worse. I'd appreciate any thoughts on the situation! Thanks!
For the love of God, please have sex with this poor man.
Gay because he has his limits and respects the goal they both have set together?
I knew that if I stuck around, I would one day agree with you on something.
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yeah, I wouldn't be so quick to call the guy gay... if he's NOT becoming aroused, then he could either be gay, not attracted to her, or have low testosterone or some other physical problem.
But we don't know whether he's becoming aroused or not. If he is (and I have a feeling he is), and he leaves, it's because he doesn't want to mess up. And as the man in the relationship he probably feels more responsible for their success as a couple (I'm not implying anything; that's just what's typically taught in Christian churches).
I knew that if I stuck around, I would one day agree with you on something.
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yeah, I wouldn't be so quick to call the guy gay... if he's NOT becoming aroused, then he could either be gay, not attracted to her, or have low testosterone or some other physical problem.
But we don't know whether he's becoming aroused or not. If he is (and I have a feeling he is), and he leaves, it's because he doesn't want to mess up. And as the man in the relationship he probably feels more responsible for their success as a couple (I'm not implying anything; that's just what's typically taught in Christian churches).
Agreed. He's probably stopping so that they don't lose control of themselves.
The guy is going to end up with a raging case of epididimytis.
To the OP: God doesn't want your boyfriend to suffer.
So put out!
I'm sure the man has suffered more than one case of blue balls.
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) I don't understand why he pulls back. I had two thoughts: 1) he genuinely doesn't want to go too far physically or give away too much of himself early on (we're both very committed to waiting) or 2) he's starting to get an erection and he doesn't want me to know. (Or 3), he's not attracted to me, but he's so passionate, tender, and generous that that is difficult for me to believe.)
