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This was inspired by another thread, I was reminded of a conversation I had with a girlfriend of mine.
She told me that she tells her husband EVERYTHING including the secrets that her friends tell her. She says that she is so open with her husband and they talk about everything, so it's just natural for her to confide to him with the secrets of others.
I don't know, I feel like if someone tells me something in confidence, especially when this person is very specific and clear that it should only stay between us, then it should only stay between us and even my husband shouldn't know. It's not his business if someone had an abortion or committed infidelity. He would forget about it the next day anyway, he doesn't bother with problems of others, but I would be betraying someone's trust.
This was inspired by another thread, I was reminded of a conversation I had with a girlfriend of mine.
She told me that she tells her husband EVERYTHING including the secrets that her friends tell her. She says that she is so open with her husband and they talk about everything, so it's just natural for her to confide to him with the secrets of others.
I don't know, I feel like if someone tells me something in confidence, especially when this person is very specific and clear that it should only stay between us, then it should only stay between us and even my husband shouldn't know. It's not his business if someone had an abortion or committed infidelity. He would forget about it the next day anyway, he doesn't bother with problems of others, but I would be betraying someone's trust.
What do you think? Am I the weirdo here?
You aren't weird, your friend is
If someone shares something with me in confidence and asks me to keep it to myself, I do. My husband does the same.
I think I would if it was going to impact her negatively. I wouldn't want to withold information that might impact the relationship or a major situation around her.
Otherwise, she'd have to really work it to get me to talk.
If someone shares something with me in confidence and asks me to keep it to myself, I do. My husband does the same.
Thank you...When I told her about this, she acted like I'm cheating my husband out of some information and not being completely honest with him. Her response to me was: "Well, I tell him EVERYTHING, we just have a very honest and open relationship"...
I think I would if it was going to impact her negatively. I wouldn't want to withold information that might impact the relationship or a major situation around her.
Otherwise, she'd have to really work it to get me to talk.
If the secret would impact my husband in some negative way, I would also tell him, but I would also tell the person that his/her secret is going to shared with my husband for xyz reasons, instead off putting my hand on my chest and promising to keep my mouth shut forever.
I tell my husband everything and my friends know that. So if they want me to keep something from my husband they'd have to tell me that first. To which I would probably say no, I don't keep secrets that well. Then they have the option of not telling me their secret, which is fine by me!
I tell my husband everything and my friends know that. So if they want me to keep something from my husband they'd have to tell me that first. To which I would probably say no. They can keep their secret away from me.
Well, I respect that. Everyone is different. I will probably not be sharing any secrets with a girlfriend of mine after that conversation, but on the other hand, I would probably not share anything anyway.
if its something truly personal, or that may affect his opinion of her, than no.
OR... if she specifically ASKS me NOT to tell. She knows that a lot of things i will tell him, so when she has something she truly doesnt want him to know, all she has to do is tell me and she knows i wont tell ANYONE...
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