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If you had feelings for someone and havent seen them for awhile, how soon will you get over them?
I feel like you need that constant interaction or face time to get the fliration/attraction going if the feelings are mutual. But if you havent seen the person you like in a while, how long would it take before those initial feelings/attraction disappears? (and you arent communicating any other way, whether it be texting, emailing or facebook etc).
So would it take a couple of days (2-3 days), a week, 2 weeks or a month of not seeing one another before your move on? ... so how long of not seeing that individual would it take before that attraction disappears?
Let me tell ya a little story of perseverance....My wife and I went to high school together(she was in 11th and I was in 10th when we met). I had a crush on her instantly. She did not feel the same(liked me as a friend and that was it). We had a mutal high school friend with whom we both kept in contact with over the years. My future wife and our best friend were roommates in college and we partied together, went clubbing, etc(mind you still just as friends). I moved away and met someone, got married, etc. After about 6 years of that we divorced. I continued to move around the state(job related) for about 5 more years. Then I made the decision to make contact with our best friend(not my future wife) and see how life was, etc. Katherine(our friend) and I decided to meet on Valentine's Day 2005 at a pub and get caught up on old times. Out of the blue she asked me if I wouldn't mind our friend Jeanie to come along(Katherine knew I always had a crush on Jeanie). So we all met up and WHAM! Jeanie saw me and I saw her and we both knew we wanted to take it somewhere, just not sure where..ha! After about 5 hours of eating, drinking, and talking, we went our seperate ways(I gave Jeanie an extended hug) and we left. Before I got away though Jeanie came up to me to make plans for next weekend and we have been together ever since. We married the following year. She is my best friend and my life. I never got over my feelings, and I am glad I didn't......
So we all met up and WHAM! Jeanie saw me and I saw her and we both knew we wanted to take it somewhere, just not sure where..ha! After about 5 hours of eating, drinking, and talking, we went our seperate ways(I gave Jeanie an extended hug) and we left. Before I got away though Jeanie came up to me to make plans for next weekend and we have been together ever since. We married the following year. She is my best friend and my life. I never got over my feelings, and I am glad I didn't......
I'm always curious about such stories as I can't quite relate to them... What was different the last time you met?
I hope your not trying to avoid the shy guy from the other thread you made lol.
But to answer your question, I think I am a little weird when it comes to crushes. They don't ever 100% disappear for me unless the person does something that is a COMPLETE turn-off that completely kills the crush. The intensity of the crush dies down a lot during time if I don't see the person, but the next time of just seing the girl in person the intensity of the crush increases again. I know some girls Ive had crushes on when I was in my earlier years of High School and currently feel pretty much nothing for them now and don't really think about them, but I bet if I were to somehow bump into them it will spark again.
I hope your not trying to avoid the shy guy from the other thread you made lol.
But to answer your question, I think I am a little weird when it comes to crushes. They don't ever 100% disappear for me unless the person does something that is a COMPLETE turn-off that completely kills the crush. The intensity of the crush dies down a lot during time if I don't see the person, but the next time of just seing the girl in person the intensity of the crush increases again. I know some girls Ive had crushes on when I was in my earlier years of High School and currently feel pretty much nothing for them now and don't really think about them, but I bet if I were to somehow bump into them it will spark again.
lol... you have found my new thread! .. and yet again it is about the same shy guy.. (but yes... I still know that i probably need to be the one who needs to make the first move) ... But I guess my new dilemma that i have is that I am going away to a conference for about 2 weeks so I wont be able to go out to our weekly hang out (with our group of friends)... and since it is tax season alot of my friends/co-workers are too busy for the weekly meet up so.. Im wont be able to see that same "shy guy" as often as I normally would until probably within a month or so (after tax season ends)..
so I guess my dilemma is that even though I still have a crush on him, and I think that the feeling is mutual.. Im just afraid that with our little face time that we will have within the next few weeks, will cause our feelings to disappear.
I'm always curious about such stories as I can't quite relate to them... What was different the last time you met?
We were different people. We were better suited for each other as we had grown up alot. Also, all that time had allowed us to see what was most important in another person. We felt and still feel that we had the best of both words....the security of being with an old friend, with the newness of being with someone you never knew in a physical way. We can relate to each other much better than we ever could with anyone else.....
If you had feelings for someone and havent seen them for awhile, how soon will you get over them?
I feel like you need that constant interaction or face time to get the fliration/attraction going if the feelings are mutual. But if you havent seen the person you like in a while, how long would it take before those initial feelings/attraction disappears? (and you arent communicating any other way, whether it be texting, emailing or facebook etc).
So would it take a couple of days (2-3 days), a week, 2 weeks or a month of not seeing one another before your move on? ... so how long of not seeing that individual would it take before that attraction disappears?
It depends on the depth of your feelings. It can take several years or a lifetime if it was someone you, truely, loved.
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