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Well it's the same for me right now. I've had several dates and have liked every single one of them, but no wow factor at all. On the other hand, I met a man at the library one day and he was so nice and so handsome that I couldn't talk to him b/c I was too intimidated. He was really trying to talk to me too. I guess it just takes time.
Well it's the same for me right now. I've had several dates and have liked every single one of them, but no wow factor at all. On the other hand, I met a man at the library one day and he was so nice and so handsome that I couldn't talk to him b/c I was too intimidated. He was really trying to talk to me too. I guess it just takes time.
Maybe you and the OP are more into the shy types? She said she doesn't like any of the guys who approach her... but what about those who don't?
So I've been dating but I can't seem to really like any guy that I date.
I mean sure I like them well enough to accept a date, and on paper sure they seem to fit the bill, good looking, common interests, goals and stability... but I just can't seem to find that urge to actually initiate a phone call or answer the plethora of phone calls they make or really invest much... so I usually end things on the 3rd date.
And I'm starting to get concerned.
I mean last night I had nothing to do so I go out to grab a beer at a local bar. I get hit on several times and lets say out of the 15 guys I actually let approach me, all of which were attractive and most of them my type, I didn't find any of them interesting enough to remember them today!
WTF? I want to really like someone and I can't
I think of my ex and when I first met him he really blew me away and no one has blown me away the way he has since... are we only given so many mind blowing encounters in a lifetime? Or maybe I just better keep my eyes open... has the world turned into hot yet mediocre men? Maybe I'm not over the ex and thus I'm sabotaging all my encounters? Eh maybe I should just stay home with the dog for a while...
Any commonality?
You can send all of those sexy guys over to me! I will make good use of them! !They have to be between ages 21-33.
Sounds to me like you're still hung up on your ex. Maybe you should look for guys and not just wait for them to come to you. For a guy to just approach you to begin with takes a certain personality.
Don't worry about... someone will come along and KABOOOM! Like how that song goes it will "knock you down"... give it time... a lot of time, but it will happen...
"Are we only given so many mind blowing encounters in a lifetime?"
In a word, yes. Most people never have more than one or two such encounters. Let's face it, 99.9% of people we'll meet in life won't blow our minds, or anything else, for that matter. The trick is to meet someone that is mind blowing, get them to reciprocate your feelings and stay with them. That's a lot easier said than done. Even happily married people usually wouldn't describe their partner (after the newness wears off) as "mind blowing."
So I've been dating but I can't seem to really like any guy that I date.
I mean sure I like them well enough to accept a date, and on paper sure they seem to fit the bill, good looking, common interests, goals and stability... but I just can't seem to find that urge to actually initiate a phone call or answer the plethora of phone calls they make or really invest much... so I usually end things on the 3rd date.
And I'm starting to get concerned.
I mean last night I had nothing to do so I go out to grab a beer at a local bar. I get hit on several times and lets say out of the 15 guys I actually let approach me, all of which were attractive and most of them my type, I didn't find any of them interesting enough to remember them today!
WTF? I want to really like someone and I can't
I think of my ex and when I first met him he really blew me away and no one has blown me away the way he has since... are we only given so many mind blowing encounters in a lifetime? Or maybe I just better keep my eyes open... has the world turned into hot yet mediocre men? Maybe I'm not over the ex and thus I'm sabotaging all my encounters? Eh maybe I should just stay home with the dog for a while...
Any commonality?
OP, can you please indicate whether you are actually a guy or not? It may change the answers somewhat, if you are looking for advice or commiseration (which you may or may not be).
When my ex and I broke up I had no intention of getting involved in a relationship for the forseeable future. I had a busy social life and I really had a lot of fun during that time. Because I was not in the game so to speak, people were real with me, no BS. Because of that after two years I really fell in love with a lady that had been my good friend for over a year. WE were married in Feb. 1990 and we still have a great relationship today.
OP, can you please indicate whether you are actually a guy or not? It may change the answers somewhat, if you are looking for advice or commiseration (which you may or may not be).
I am a female. I say it right out.
Thanks.
Well I'm not trying to hide it geez and I for one can't see how it makes a difference for the advice. I know all the advice I spew out in real life or on the web is applicable regardless of sexual identity or orientation...
That being said I am a guy.
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He was really trying to talk to me too. I guess it just takes time.
