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Unread 03-24-2011, 10:38 PM
 
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Default Annoying Grown Kids

More than twice, I must admit, that I have involved myself with women who have grown kids still living at home, most times, barely employed. And usually one of them wants to control mom's love life, while neglecting to pursue any kind of life of their own.

But what really blows me away is how mom, my prospective girlfriend, always denies whats in front of her face, allowing this, making these overgorown brats feel that they should be able to boss me around as well! Oh I believe in fmaily love too. But shouldnt there be a line drawn about this at some point?
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Unread 03-25-2011, 07:08 AM
 
Location: Whiteville Tennessee
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Yes. A line must be drawn. But the mom must be the one to draw it. It's up to you decide if you like where she drew the line or not. Where she draws the line will tell you just where you are in the pecking order.
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Unread 03-25-2011, 07:14 AM
 
Location: Bucks County, PA
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So why are you attracted to women of this nature?
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Unread 03-25-2011, 08:31 AM
 
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It is not just women like this, men also.
I went on a date with a guy last year and I was totally set up. We went out for dinner, to a place that he wanted to go and his daughter and her boyfriend were already there. He insisted on sitting with them, and come to find out that the daughter did not work and she was still living at home. She was 28. Of course the conversation revolved around his daughter, and she basically ignored me even though I tried to talk to her and make the best of the evening. Believe it or not he called me a couple of days later. And I let voice mail pick up. His message was to ask me to come to his house and cook for his daughters birthday party.
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Unread 03-25-2011, 08:39 AM
 
Location: Whiteville Tennessee
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It is not just women like this, men also.
I went on a date with a guy last year and I was totally set up. We went out for dinner, to a place that he wanted to go and his daughter and her boyfriend were already there. He insisted on sitting with them, and come to find out that the daughter did not work and she was still living at home. She was 28. Of course the conversation revolved around his daughter, and she basically ignored me even though I tried to talk to her and make the best of the evening. Believe it or not he called me a couple of days later. And I let voice mail pick up. His message was to ask me to come to his house and cook for his daughters birthday party.
Wow! While I dont profess to be the most romantic guy in the world, [actually I'm clueless at times as to what women want] even I could have done a better job on a 1st date than this guy!
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Unread 03-25-2011, 08:41 AM
 
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So why are you attracted to women of this nature?
I dont think I said anywhere that I still am.
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Unread 03-25-2011, 08:47 AM
 
Location: El Paso, TX
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More than twice, I must admit, that I have involved myself with women who have grown kids still living at home, most times, barely employed. And usually one of them wants to control mom's love life, while neglecting to pursue any kind of life of their own.

But what really blows me away is how mom, my prospective girlfriend, always denies whats in front of her face, allowing this, making these overgorown brats feel that they should be able to boss me around as well! Oh I believe in fmaily love too. But shouldnt there be a line drawn about this at some point?
Yes, there should be a line. Everybody draws a line and in her case your prospective friend has done that. It is not the line you believe should be. That really is what it is.

Our line was different because our kids would not play that type of game. Our first daughter wanted to do things her way so when she was 19 left. She held it against us for a while that we did not support her and blamed us for her perils after she left. Now, at 36 she made a comment to my wife over the phone about a couple friends of her that allow their kids to do whatever they want.
She said she told the wife "When I was 19 I left because I wanted to live life on my own terms and paid the price. My parents held firm and now I realize they were right." take care.
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Unread 03-25-2011, 08:47 AM
 
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Wow! While I dont profess to be the most romantic guy in the world, [actually I'm clueless at times as to what women want] even I could have done a better job on a 1st date than this guy!
I saw him a few months later at the store and avoided him like the plaque.
I really could not believe that he wanted me to cook for his daughters party with the way she dissed me at the restaurant. But yet I would love to just meet a normal guy in this small town! LOL
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Unread 03-25-2011, 08:52 AM
 
Location: Whiteville Tennessee
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I saw him a few months later at the store and avoided him like the plaque.
I really could not believe that he wanted me to cook for his daughters party with the way she dissed me at the restaurant. But yet I would love to just meet a normal guy in this small town! LOL
Whats wrong sweetie? Sulphur Springs not a hot bed of action????
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Unread 03-25-2011, 08:55 AM
 
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It is not just women like this, men also.
I went on a date with a guy last year and I was totally set up. We went out for dinner, to a place that he wanted to go and his daughter and her boyfriend were already there. He insisted on sitting with them, and the conversation revolved around his daughter, and she basically ignored me.
Maybe some men are guilty. However, Ive not came across many.
But your version sounds a bit different, whereas that was one date, where dad was just glad to see his daughter out somewhere.
Were you in a relationship with dad? And it also doesnt sound as if besides that one occasion, the daughter was being invited to involve herself in your daily lives. Or was she?
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