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A great many of the children I work with have autism spectrum disorders. Quite a few of them are also adopted. In some cases, the diagnosis came prior to adoption. In the case of others, the adoptive parents have had the child from infancy, before the indicators of autism would be readily apparent.
You have no experience in life, you have never been in love, never had a committed relationship and never left home.
Sorry kiddo, you have nothing to base any life long decisions on.
Oh dear, I'm surprised he didn't correct you on that statement with a typical response along the lines of, "Well obviously you haven't read my posts, but as most people know, I'm now living a few thousand miles away from home attending university and living in a dorm". Supported by his parents in toto and miffed at them because they won't buy him a car ...
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At least you admitted you're wrong.
Language subtleties never fail to confuse you, kiddo.
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So you're saying I don't have the life experience to decide I don't want kids, but you think I should want kids
Once again you show a distinct lack of reading comprehension as that was not what was said at all.
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A lot of the posters have a hard time understanding just how life-ruining a kid can be.
Wrong again. You continuously state the obvious, are boringly repetitious in stating and restating your particular beliefs and every thread you contribute to ends up being all about you.
By the way, at least one quarter of the total posts on this thread emanate from you. The thread asked a simple question which you have answered. You really are a funny little fellow and so set in your ways at such a very tender age when so much is ahead of you.
To the OP, your profile pic is lovely and the little glitch you're currently going through is nothing to worry about at all. Trust me, there are many men out there who look forward to having children and enjoying a healthy relationship.
Two in particular come to mind just in my little neck of the woods and both very recently. Both are successful professionals in their early thirties and unmarried.
Man "A" is finally a pretty successful attorney here. Some people thought he might be gay because he initially roomed with someone who was gay. He recently met someone who's a fellow attorney he met on a stateside business trip. She came down here a couple of times after that, fell for "Mr A", has just moved here and they're like two little lovebirds. I see wedding bells and children in their future!
Man "B" is very quiet and very shy. Employed by a Federal agency, he works very hard and enjoys his time here but hankers for more wide open spaces than those afforded here apart from in open water. He's one of the nicest young men I've met and, were I many years younger, I'd hang my hat next to his any time. He likewise would love to meet "the right one" and raise a family. They're not unique.
I've seen raucous bar hoppers and womanizers who swore they'd never have kids turn into virtual pussycats once they met the right person. One and two children later they're exemplary parents and dedicated husbands.
There are many men out there who look forward to having a solid relationship and having children but I'm guessing that by this time you've realized that you've opened up a Pandora's box by posting such a query.
As many logically sane and experienced posters who respond to threads such as yours there's a multitude of very dysfunctional "advisors" on this forum. I hope you can sift the wheat from the chaff. Cheers, dear!
Yes, I would like to have offspring of my own someday, and possibly get married, but I'm a bit young for that stuff for my own tastes. I don't want kids or marriage until I've got a decent job and my own place and whatnot.
Oh dear, I'm surprised he didn't correct you on that statement with a typical response along the lines of, "Well obviously you haven't read my posts, but as most people know, I'm now living a few thousand miles away from home attending university and living in a dorm". Supported by his parents in toto and miffed at them because they won't buy him a car ...
1. I'm not living a few thousand miles away from home. A few is 3. I'm living 2 thousand miles away from home.
2. I don't live in a dorm.
3. It's not that they won't buy me a car. They bought me a car in high school. But they didn't let me take it to college.
Funny how you think you know so much about me, but you don't.
And the point is even though my parents support me, there's a difference between me and someone that is truly living at home.
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Language subtleties never fail to confuse you, kiddo.
I knew she wasn't serious (because she thinks she was right). But she was actually wrong. So I applauded her for admitting she was wrong (even though she was jokingly saying she was wrong).
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Once again you show a distinct lack of reading comprehension as that was not what was said at all.
That's exactly what she said. She said there are normal young adults on this forum that want kids. And she said it's not normal for me to not want kids because she thinks I don't have enough life experience to make that decision.
1. I'm not living a few thousand miles away from home. A few is 3. I'm living 2 thousand miles away from home.
2. I don't live in a dorm.
3. It's not that they won't buy me a car. They bought me a car in high school. But they didn't let me take it to college.
Funny how you think you know so much about me, but you don't.
And the point is even though my parents support me, there's a difference between me and someone that is truly living at home.
I knew she wasn't serious (because she thinks she was right). But she was actually wrong. So I applauded her for admitting she was wrong (even though she was jokingly saying she was wrong).
That's exactly what she said. She said there are normal young adults on this forum that want kids. And she said it's not normal for me to not want kids because she thinks I don't have enough life experience to make that decision.
You are indeed such a funny little fellow and your response was exactly as I surmised it would be. You don't live in a dorm on campus? Mea culpa! I thought you did, based on your previous posts. The predictability was right on target. Good night, kiddo! Too bad you can't stay on topic where the OP's question is concerned. As usual all about you.
There are so many dangers that come with having children.
The population & world condition shave to be right too.
Population issues are more of an issue in the third world than in countries like the US. Plus, the people who have ideological and social concerns for our world are more apt to raise children who will share those concerns than, say, someone who has had (or fathered) five kids out of wedlock and has been in and out of jail for meth possession over the years and is much more concerned with scoring - one way or the other - than the state of the world.
Lately it seems that I've met a few guys that unfortunately (for me) have had vasectomies.
My question is, are there any guys left out there that still want kids? (and get married?)
I want kids.. I just spoil my nephew instead...
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