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druinder · 03-26-2011, 09:14 PM

My girlfriend is mad at me because I wanted to take her out to dinner without her kids tagging along. I even offered to pay for a babysitter for them and she jumped down my throat over it. So when I asked her why she was so hostile over it her answer was that she told her kids that I was going to take all of us to Chuckee Cheese which I clearly didn't tell her. Anyways, we had a big fight and now I'm not sure how to handle the situation at all. Now don't get me wrong I really like both of her kids however, I wanted some "alone time" with her.

Any advice that could help me resolve my situation would be most appreciative and thanks in advance.

carlitasway · 03-26-2011, 09:15 PM

Run away....far far away.

Thursday007 · 03-26-2011, 09:18 PM

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Originally Posted by druinder

. Now don't get me wrong I really like both of her kids however, I wanted some "alone time" with her.

Any advice that could help me resolve my situation would be most appreciative and thanks in advance.

Right there. That's what you need to make clear in a very calm and patient manner - not fighting, just explaining.

schmidty223 · 03-26-2011, 09:20 PM

Seems like it was her fault for promising the kids you'd take them to CC without your permission, but I guess if you didn't tell her before that you wanted alone time with her only then it would be your fault. Say you're sorry I guess, but maybe she was just having a bad day...

Donna in AZ · 03-26-2011, 09:22 PM

Wow, I don't get it either. Maybe some mommies forget what it's like to be a woman. I'd be careful of a woman who uses kids as a buffer to intimacy.

imsh0t · 03-26-2011, 10:08 PM

Shes looking for someone to provide for her kids i guess. How long have you been dating her? Any other things that bother you? How exactly did you react? I dont think she really has a reason to be mad at you, whats her reasoning about this? If you wanted to be the bigger person you should of sucked it up say ok, and then plan a time for "alone time". However if this is a new relationship this is a red flag if from the get go she is acting like these kids are your burden too... or if shes being very unreasonable and selfish and basically using you.

steelstress · 03-26-2011, 10:22 PM

Really dude, there are too many other women without kids for you to be tolerating this crap.

Just let her know. Or better yet, get out.

imcurious · 03-26-2011, 10:25 PM

I'd say she is a damn good mom to think of her kids first. Sounds like you are a little jealous. I think she may need more of a grown up man who could embrace her family - not that I know for sure, just a guess. "Take what you like and leave the rest," as they say.

Hegotsoul831 · 03-26-2011, 10:27 PM

And Im surprised you didnt get the "nothing comes between me and my kids buster. We are a package deal. It's all or nothing!" -lecture. As if you are the reason she has kids.

Big-Bad-John · 03-26-2011, 10:27 PM

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Originally Posted by druinder

My girlfriend is mad at me because I wanted to take her out to dinner without her kids tagging along. I even offered to pay for a babysitter for them and she jumped down my throat over it. So when I asked her why she was so hostile over it her answer was that she told her kids that I was going to take all of us to Chuckee Cheese which I clearly didn't tell her. Anyways, we had a big fight and now I'm not sure how to handle the situation at all. Now don't get me wrong I really like both of her kids however, I wanted some "alone time" with her.

Any advice that could help me resolve my situation would be most appreciative and thanks in advance.

I would have went to CC. I like to help little kids cheat to win tickets!