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Old 03-28-2011, 01:47 PM
 
Location: USA
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Default Met a gal who used to do porn, should I pursue a relationship?

Met a really interesting woman, pretty, adventurous, sexy, down to earth, and way too honest! She told me right up front that she had done work in the industry. I looked her up on line and found she had done about 6 short flicks year years ago. It was a little wierd watching it but I am very open minded and have no problems dating her. She has not been a relationship in a while and tested herself often back in the day so STDs are not likely and I'm always protected anyway.
I'm not likely to have a LTR with her (or any other woman for that matter) and other than friends giving me crap if/when they found out what is the down side?
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Old 03-28-2011, 02:01 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Met a really interesting woman, pretty, adventurous, sexy, down to earth, and way too honest! She told me right up front that she had done work in the industry. I looked her up on line and found she had done about 6 short flicks year years ago. It was a little wierd watching it but I am very open minded and have no problems dating her. She has not been a relationship in a while and tested herself often back in the day so STDs are not likely and I'm always protected anyway.
I'm not likely to have a LTR with her (or any other woman for that matter) and other than friends giving me crap if/when they found out what is the down side?
Interesting that you aren't interested in a LTR with her - guessing that means you only go after women you want to have sex with?

99.9% of women in the porn industry are very damaged and wounded individuals from neglected, abused or other mentally unstable backgrounds. Go ahead and be one more guy who takes advantage of her without really caring about her well being at all. Hey, if that's the kind of guy you want to be...
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Old 03-28-2011, 02:05 PM
Status: "Busy World Cuping" (set 29 days ago)
 
Location: Where Dance Music comes first
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Met a really interesting woman, pretty, adventurous, sexy, down to earth, and way too honest! She told me right up front that she had done work in the industry. I looked her up on line and found she had done about 6 short flicks year years ago. It was a little wierd watching it but I am very open minded and have no problems dating her. She has not been a relationship in a while and tested herself often back in the day so STDs are not likely and I'm always protected anyway.
I'm not likely to have a LTR with her (or any other woman for that matter) and other than friends giving me crap if/when they found out what is the down side?
What would my parents think? They wouldn't like it, but I don't care.
What would my friends think? Who Nuckin cares?


She's an EX-pornstar. She told you up front about it, and she has no STDs. Plus, judigng from your post, I can tell you do not think lowly of Porn Stars or maybe just her in particular, which is a good thing IMO. So I'd say go for it.

I can't think of any downside other than being ridiculed, which I don't care much about.

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Old 03-28-2011, 02:14 PM
 
Location: in my imagination
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99.9% of women in the porn industry are very damaged and wounded individuals ...

Not much different from a large percentage of the rest of society. All the heartbreak and relationships gone bad is proof. For 10 couples, maybe only 2 or 3 survive and the rest fall apart with one or both involved being wounded.
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Old 03-28-2011, 02:17 PM
 
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She an EX-pornstar. She told you up front about it, and she has no STDs.
That you know of.

How long since her last test? What about you? Just get tested - both of you. Oh, and testing for STDs often does not include Herpes, which only 1/4 of the people who have it even know they have it because they are asymptomatic.

And most people don't know you can get it on adjacent areas a condom can't protect.

As far as what Loves Mountains said, well maybe. Sure, a high percentage of prostitutes and porn stars come from abuse, but not 100%.

I know of a woman who suffered childhood sexual abuse who became a prostitute. She "acted" like she loved what she did, but she really distrusted men and thought they were a big disappointment. I'm sure there are prostitutes who don't have such a negative background too. Same goes for porn stars.

I'd say you should get to know her better. That's the only way you're going to know the downsides.
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Old 03-28-2011, 02:18 PM
 
Location: Vegas, baby, Vegas!
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I know this chick, who used to be in IT, now I have nothing about the tech industry, But if My friends found out I am dating a former Tech person, oh man! and what would my mother think?

Yes, her job really defines the person, I will use her like my last macbook pro, as soon as there is a upgrade, she is so on eBay

Jonathan
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Old 03-28-2011, 02:25 PM
 
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Apples and Oranges, Jonathan. Apples and Oranges.
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Old 03-28-2011, 02:26 PM
Status: "Busy World Cuping" (set 29 days ago)
 
Location: Where Dance Music comes first
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That you know of.

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I'm taking his words for what it is. Hypothetically, if she was up-front about being an EX-pornstar and has no STDs, then all's fair and dandy. Like I said before, go for it.
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Old 03-28-2011, 02:28 PM
Status: "Busy World Cuping" (set 29 days ago)
 
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I'd say you should get to know her better. That's the only way you're going to know the downsides.
Better.
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Old 03-28-2011, 02:30 PM
 
Location: Heart of Dixie
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Omygosh. Is this for real? If you were my son, I'd be appalled. I can hear it now:

Me: Hi, Ms Gingerly Love what is you've done with yourself the past 20 years?

Her: Oh, I've starred in some low classic B porn movies, nothing major.

Me: ^^^^^^---------------------------flatlines!!!
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