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In my experience, the ladies who get called ******* are usuallly just women who have zero tolerance for BS, and are completely comfortable with being disliked.
This. I've been called all kinds of fun names by men because I won't put up with their BS and I simply do not allow drama into my life. My life is pretty fantastic, I'm self sufficient, I have a great job and amazing friends and thee is no way I'm bringing a man into my life who BSes me.
Plus, I'm fairly aggressive and I pursue what I want... If thy makes me a bit h, than so be it
However, there is no level of b*tchy female behavior that men find attractive. I have never seen anything to indicate that any man wants that, even in miniscule levels. I've never seen men who were drawn to it; I've only seen men who tolerate it, if she has some other qualities that make up for her attitude.
Bingo.
Being attracted to a girl's nasty attitude, and tolerating it are two completely different things. And unless her attitude changes fundamentally, these relationships never last over the long term.
"It doesn't matter how hot a girl is - somewhere, some guy is tired of her bullsh*t."
Have you never noticed that men seem to like the women that are like this? Is it because they like the control and need to please a women? I understand being a strong women but my personality just isnt like that. I can be one but it takes alot!
Maybe its because he likes a strong willed woman, and it works out best for them.
Maybe for some men, they want her to be a "B" so they don`t have to take that handle in life. They can watch behind the scenes, and not step up to the plate!
Have you never noticed that men seem to like the women that are like this? Is it because they like the control and need to please a women? I understand being a strong women but my personality just isnt like that. I can be one but it takes alot!
Me too and when I do make the effort the men I encounter don't like it and call me 'B'--then I don't like that and wish I hadn't tried so hard.
I seem to do better with the quirky, funny, nice style--when comes naturally.
That's just not true. And if my husband ever said it was - I'd kick him in the you know what so hard that he'd see stars for a week. Now - I gotta go yell at the hubby for being slow to massage my feet and bring me some ice cream. A woman's work is never done...
Have you never noticed that men seem to like the women that are like this? Is it because they like the control and need to please a women? I understand being a strong women but my personality just isnt like that. I can be one but it takes alot!
Most don't start that way. It's after they have their foot in the door. The ones who are that way right off the bat don't have a prayer.
Men do not like b*tches, per se. Men like women who are hot, and women who are hot have far more leeway to be b*tches, and get away with it.
i'm positive i'll get flamed by someone for this, but i don't think it is as simple as an apples to apples comparison.
in my opinion, women are actually attracted to a small level of "jerk" behavior , coming from men. It's a balance, no question, but nobody can sit here and tell me that women aren't attracted to jerks, and have me take them seriously, because I've seen way too much that contradicts that story. I've seen average men draw in very attractive women, on the basis of sheer dominating, controlling, ass hole behavior alone.
However, there is no level of b*tchy female behavior that men find attractive. I have never seen anything to indicate that any man wants that, even in miniscule levels. I've never seen men who were drawn to it; I've only seen men who tolerate it, if she has some other qualities that make up for her attitude.
One of my favorite topics--'What do men want?'
I think men do like the 'Queen Bee' types--they marry the nice girls, potentially competent to run a household, nurture children and all--the women that are 'Strong'--at times that does include being a bit of a 'B'---protective of the family/spouse. I suppose being 'hot' is part of the initial attraction---charming, fun to be around, happy and a Good person. A prize/treasure--the man must work to earn favors--sexual and otherwise--he knows he has won the Game.
'All Cats Are Gray in the Dark'--yes, men like sex and there are several kinds of women that might be 'freer'---very affluent and those who are not so attractive--'Needy'--the kind that men seek to avoid.
It gets very old--the mating game. I know that good relationships are based on common values and interests and respect for each other. When that has been sufficientlly established and there is a degree of emotional maturity and trust then intimacy develops.
If it is considered b*tchy to be self protective--then I tend to think that is the man's problem. What do I know--what do I know--
I know that I have to have some feelings about another person to want to be closely involved--just not worth the time otherwise. I suppose that could be considered controlling, hard or difficult--tired of repairing emotional damage from bad choices in all aspects of my life. Others seem to live differently--tougher, stronger or have better coping methods.
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