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Old 03-29-2011, 10:46 AM
 
Location: Brooklyn, New York
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I don't know - my husband was pretty thrilled when we got engaged and when we got married. I know he's super excited now that we're having a baby. Why do you assume that the guy isn't as excited about getting engaged and getting married? Just because he doesn't post pics on Facebook? My hubby doesn't post anything on Facebook. In fact, I made his page for him!
I never said that men don't get excited. I just think women have a whole different level of enthusiasm when it comes to getting engaged or married.
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Old 03-29-2011, 10:46 AM
 
Location: Vermont
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Ummm, ordinarily an engagement or marriage involves two people, one of them a man and one a woman. Hence, the male equivalent to getting engaged or married is getting engaged or married.
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Old 03-29-2011, 10:48 AM
 
Location: Vermont
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Oh, and by the way, DO NOT let DeBeers or anyone else sucker you into thinking that you need to spend two months' or six months' salary on an engagement ring. That would be as stupid as letting the car companies convince you that you're a loser if you don't spend two years' salary on a new car.
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Old 03-29-2011, 10:49 AM
 
Location: Woodinville
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FOR REAL!!, just got engaged and the whole ring thing was stressful, I had no clue about clarity/carats/color/cut, but quickly learnt
Yeah I've heard engagement rings are complicated. If she wanted to propose to me all I would want is a perfectly cooked steak. Preferably with some form of bacon integration.

Congrats on the engagement!
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Old 03-29-2011, 10:50 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I never said that men don't get excited. I just think women have a whole different level of enthusiasm when it comes to getting engaged or married.
I guess - but we have a whole different level of enthusiasm about everything - don't we?

There are all different kinds of excitement. When I walked down the aisle on my wedding day - my husband was smiling from ear to ear - the happiest smile I've ever seen! I saw that same smile when I told him I was pregnant. Now - did he react the same as when his team won the NCAA Football National Championship? No. But when my team won the NCAA Football National Championship - I went crazy screaming and yelling, too. I didn't do that when he proposed - I just cried and hugged him.

I think guys probably have a different reaction to getting engaged and getting married - but I don't it means they are less excited about it. They are just excited about it in a different way.
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Old 03-29-2011, 10:51 AM
 
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Yeah I've heard engagement rings are complicated. If she wanted to propose to me all I would want is a perfectly cooked steak. Preferably with some form of bacon integration.

Congrats on the engagement!
Thanks
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Old 03-29-2011, 10:51 AM
 
Location: in my imagination
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Having a threesome.

Or having your team win the national championship on an epic, last-gasp Hail Mary pass into quadruple coverage. That's pretty sweet.

A hole-in-one.

Buying a boat.

Winning the lottery and telling the boss to stick it.

Shark Week on the Discovery Channel.



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Old 03-29-2011, 10:54 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Uh, as a woman, I can say that getting married was awesome and undoubtedly a monumental moment in my life, but it was never something I strived for or made an overriding goal in life. Most women I know want to get married because that means they met the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with. Not because it's some kind of twisted goal.

Biggest chest-bursting, tearful, joyful, emotionally overwhelming accomplishment of a goal in MY life? My medical school graduation.

I imagine the birth of my first child might come close...but again, being a physician has been my dream since I was 4. Getting married, buying a house, having kids...that was always important (well, I never really cared about buying a house), but those haven't been the driving force in my life.

I think saying that all women find their engagement to be some crazy awesome pinnacle moment in their lives is kind of sexist, chauvinist, and just plain wrong. It can be a wonderful thing, but it's not the only thing.
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Old 03-29-2011, 11:07 AM
 
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As a women who doesn't want to get married or have children I don't know what the equivalent would be. But seeing how people have a multitude of different priorities I'm sure there are women and men out there who wouldn't find either too exciting.
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Old 03-29-2011, 11:30 AM
 
Location: Brooklyn, New York
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I would say that the closest thing for a man is winning a Super Bowl or some type of championship. Men are judged strictly by what we accomplish in life. Nobody cares if you have a family or not. It's "did you make partner?" Or "did you land the account?" The Super Bowl (or NBA championship or World Cup), I think, is a dream for most young boys, and there's nothing better than throwing that accomplishment in another guy's face. Just look at Kobe and Shaq.

If I won a championship for the Eagles, I would make the bragging that girls do on Facebook look like an exercise in humility. In fact, I just think I'd walk into every restaurant in America, walk up to every man, stick my hand out and say "You don't happen to have one of these, do you???" lol


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