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Okay Im not personally dating anybody right now, but just wanted to ask this question for when I do get into a relationship. So you get the first date right, how many dates after that do you think it would be reasonable to ask for a commitment of some sort? And what kind of commitment do you think would be good to ask for?
There will be a lot of posters responding with foofoo answers like "when it happens, you'll know" and "you shouldn't need to talk about it" and "boyfriend/girlfriend is just a stupid label" etc etc. I'll tell you this much, for me it tends to happen after about a month of seeing the other person a few times each week (assuming the feeling is mutual). Right about when you start to gain a certain level of comfort with the other person and open up a bit.
I wouldn't try asking for a commitment. My girlfriend just said out off the blue "are you seeing anyone else?" I said no, then asked her the same thing and she said no. There was a pause then I said it sounded like we were a couple. Then we started joking about the silliness of making it facebook-official and things like that. It was not a big deal and neither of us tried to make a big deal out of it so it worked out great.
It's really up to you, but I am committed from the moment I agree to the date....or even before. Once I set my sights on something, I'm pretty singleminded about it.
I think after date number 1 you will know if you are committed or not. If after the first date you can't answer a 'yes' to committment, then it's time to move on.
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Originally Posted by TKramar
It's really up to you, but I am committed from the moment I agree to the date....or even before. Once I set my sights on something, I'm pretty singleminded about it.
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Originally Posted by CTownNative
I could easily commit myself after one date, I just don't know what to expect when I start dating.
Okay Im not personally dating anybody right now, but just wanted to ask this question for when I do get into a relationship. So you get the first date right, how many dates after that do you think it would be reasonable to ask for a commitment of some sort? And what kind of commitment do you think would be good to ask for?
There is no magic number. Your gut should tell you if you are ready to be exclusive. Sometimes after the first date and sometimes never.
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