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Old 03-29-2011, 06:25 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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...but if you're not looking, how will you know it's there?

I have a problem with that saying because, well, it doesn't apply to anything else. I don't get an "A" on an exam when I'm not trying for it, I don't get a promotion when I'm not trying for it. So why don't you get love when you try for it?
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Old 03-29-2011, 06:28 PM
 
Location: Charlotte
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What it means is that when you go around looking for it in a desperate manner, you would only find someone that's not exactly what you would be looking for, and you would settle anyway because you are desperate, however, without even trying, you wouldn't even be able to find anyone, so it's like, give it a shot and keep trying but don't become desperate to find love, that's what I believe it means.
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Old 03-29-2011, 06:32 PM
 
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I guess it's because when you're not looking for it, you have a care-free attitide that attracts others to you. You're also not focused on finding that special one...so that means you don't really notice that you're not finding someone, because you're so busy with other things. It's all about the attitude that you project.
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Old 03-29-2011, 06:34 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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What it means is that when you go around looking for it in a desperate manner, you would only find someone that's not exactly what you would be looking for, and you would settle anyway because you are desperate, however, without even trying, you wouldn't even be able to find anyone, so it's like, give it a shot and keep trying but don't become desperate to find love, that's what I believe it means.
And how about when you're looking but not in a desperate manner?
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I guess it's because when you're not looking for it, you have a care-free attitide that attracts others to you. You're also not focused on finding that special one...so that means you don't really notice that you're not finding someone, because you're so busy with other things. It's all about the attitude that you project.
But then if you're not looking for it, how are you gonna recognize it when it's there?
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Old 03-29-2011, 06:36 PM
 
Location: Charlotte
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And how about when you're looking but not in a desperate manner?


But then if you're not looking for it, how are you gonna recognize it when it's there?
If you are not desperate about it, and are just looking with an open mind, you would find something that would work for you, question is about how much you are willing to compromise on certain things, and how willing are you to wait a little longer for that someone should it mean you have to wait for a little longer than what you expect.

But yes, you should look for it, that much is sure.
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Old 03-29-2011, 06:38 PM
 
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But then if you're not looking for it, how are you gonna recognize it when it's there?
I'm not sure if I understand your question. You recognize it because it's there. You know when you meet someone you click with.
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Old 03-29-2011, 06:43 PM
 
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Well, I'm not looking for it at the moment, and I doubt I'll find it! When I'm not looking, I give off the leave me alone vibe. That is never attractive. I just stay focused and concentrate on what I'm doing. I won't notice you, I promise.
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Old 03-29-2011, 06:48 PM
 
Location: Charlotte
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Well, I'm not looking for it at the moment, and I doubt I'll find it! When I'm not looking, I give off the leave me alone vibe. That is never attractive. I just stay focused and concentrate on what I'm doing. I won't notice you, I promise.
Me neither, I have been very happy being single for the past 4 years now, and busy with life and career, just thought that it was perhaps time for me to get back into the game, and that's what brought me into this forum to find out a few things before I get into the game, however, the opinions of a lot of people here have convinced me that I am perhaps best the way I am, no need to get into this useless game
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Old 03-29-2011, 06:54 PM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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Remind me to walk down the street wearing a blind fold tomorrow

lol
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Old 03-29-2011, 06:58 PM
 
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Me neither, I have been very happy being single for the past 4 years now, and busy with life and career, just thought that it was perhaps time for me to get back into the game, and that's what brought me into this forum to find out a few things before I get into the game, however, the opinions of a lot of people here have convinced me that I am perhaps best the way I am, no need to get into this useless game
Well, I don't know if it is totally useless, but I need some damn time to think! LOL Unlike others, I at least try to heal before getting CUT again.
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